Chocobo Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 ...out for coffee out of the blue. I was already a bit on the other side of responding her since I don't really know what to expect from her. So here's the jist: Her: Hey, wanna go out for coffee next week? yada yada yada Me: Sure Her: Great! What day is best for you? Me: Tuesday or Thursday. This was on the 4th of Jan. She only answered me today with: Her: Hello! Tuesday sounds good. 3pm? Where? I don't know how to read this. It sounds to me like playing games. What do you guys reckon? Thanks in advance for any feedback you might leave of any kind.
wb1988 Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 You shouldn't have said "what day is best for you?" it comes off as if you have nothing going on, actually you probably don't but it's still not a good impression it's like being a desperate needy Frenchman. Not all girls that are interested in a guy will respond in 10 seconds, some decide to take a bit of time (infinite number of reasons). It's too early to tell but the fact that she asked you out is definitely a very positive sign.
Author Chocobo Posted January 8, 2016 Author Posted January 8, 2016 Hey wb1988, thanks for your reply. It wasn't me who asked that if you notice, it was her I just found the whole thing rather odd because I consider her initiative as good and than her backtrack as bad. I gave her two options because I do have more going on for me and didn't want to invest that much like I did before.
smackie9 Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 There are a lot of women out there that are taking steps to ask guys out, but with some reservations because they feel it's risky, worried about being rejected, come off as being desperate, or easy, etc. So from what I see she initiated, but is letting you still take the lead. 1
rester Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 What's the background/context? Is she someone you just met? How'd you meet her and get her contact information, etc?
d0nnivain Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 It's coffee. 20 minutes out of your life. Show up. Drink the beverage. Talk to her. Judge whether you want more from that in-person interaction not the length of time it took her to text back. 2
thejabberwocky Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 She asked YOU out, so she's playing games to not look so needy. A little much, but it means she likes you and doesn't want to come off as desperate. There is a lot of stigma around girls asking someone out, she's trying to remedy that. Enjoy coffee!
Author Chocobo Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 What's the background/context? Is she someone you just met? How'd you meet her and get her contact information, etc? We've met a couple of months ago. We've had nice experiences but she can give me the best signs and the worst. My thoughts is that she is a workaholic and that's why she doesn't answer as frequently but I wanted some other insights. I ended up responding to her text saying it's cool and named a place. She hasn't answered me again since than.
Author Chocobo Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 She ended up rescheduling it. We were suppose to meet today at 3pm and she rescheduled to thursday at 4.10pm. Now, i know she is very dedicated to her job but I think this is a big lack of respect. Although I can see that she is trying to set up a new date since I think 4.10pm is very specific, I'm inclined to just drop this out. What do you guys reckon?
hippychick3 Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I don't see what is the big deal. She asked you out. You gave her options and she took some time to think about when would work best for her. She rescheduled with another specific time. Just go. You're way overthinking this. If I were her and knew you were analyzing this so much to the point of not going, I would not want to meet up at all anymore.
YourCupOfTea Posted January 12, 2016 Posted January 12, 2016 I think that you are overthinking it way too much. If she asks you out, she wants to meet you, because she likes your company. Nothing more, nothing less. Rescheduling is not disrespectful. Sometimes life happens. It probably has nothing to do with you. I sometimes have to remind myself not to think about what someone else 's thoughts and motivations might be. You can't look inside someones head, so you will probably never for sure. Just try to think about what you want. Do you like the girl? Would you like to see her? And act on that. You can't control her behavior, only your own. If you don't like her behavior, she might not be the girl for you.
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