Gloria25 Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 This is pretty much for guys only... If you're married and flirt - especially in instances where the object of your flirting wants more - then why do you pursue it? Especially when you are happy in your marriage, have no intention of leaving your wife, and/or you know you're leading on other women? Is it a game? Is is like an ego boost you need so bad? Are you like a sociopath/narcissist where your wife, women, etc are just "objects" for your entertainment? Ever consider stopping? What did it take to make you stop?
Qboro90 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Is this the same guy who you've had issues with that lives on your block? If so then that would be a major detail to include 1
Rejected Rosebud Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Exactly how are you defining "FLIRTING"?
Imajerk17 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 (edited) Don't speak in hypotheticals @Gloria25. We all know what situation you are referring to. For everyone else not in the know who doesn't have time to read OP's previous threads, here are the Clif Notes: Gloria25 has been hassling a neighbor of hers who is married. With a small child. He keeps ignoring her attempts to contact him--such as Facebook--but she keeps persisting. Who knows why she feels he is flirting with her..... I just think any poster thinking of giving this woman advice needs to be aware of the situation here. Edited January 11, 2016 by Imajerk17 1
TheArtist Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 I think this is true of both sexes but most of the time it doesn't mean anything. For example, I've had plenty of girlfriends who say that they flirt a little in shops to sway prices in their favour, but it's nothing sexual. While it can a narcissistic thing, it certainly isn't that everytime. Let's face it, people like attention and there's no greater compliment than someone considering you as a mate - it's been deep in our instincts since time began - but now that we have logic, reason, and compassion, it doesn't mean that we'll automatically cheat. Most of us won't. It's also worth considering that some people are just pleasant people and everyone's mannerisms are different. Friendliness can be pretty close to flirting.
PegNosePete Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 Why ask a totally obscure hypothetical question that 99% of guys (especially guys who read and post on relationship forums) would never get into in the first place? If a guy behaves as you describe then I would say most likely he's looking for extra marital sex. If that's what you want too, then go for it. If you're considering a relationship with a guy like this, you have rocks in your head.
Davidjo Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 (edited) This is pretty much for guys only... If you're married and flirt - especially in instances where the object of your flirting wants more - then why do you pursue it? Especially when you are happy in your marriage, have no intention of leaving your wife, and/or you know you're leading on other women? Is it a game? Is is like an ego boost you need so bad? Are you like a sociopath/narcissist where your wife, women, etc are just "objects" for your entertainment? Ever consider stopping? What did it take to make you stop? So I can give you my perspective here. First off I'm not married but was in a 12year relationship. And stayed faithful throughout most of it, but I did stray twice even though I was happy. So let me break down what was going on in my head. (I consider myself to be a good man by the way and I had plenty more opportunities to cheat and I turned down many beautiful women.) Okay so firstly the first time I was very young and immature and it was early on in that relationship (maybe within the first year of the 12 year relationship). But I think I hadn't snapped out of the mode of turning down a beautiful girl who were seducing me. I liked the excitement and it was selfish fun back then. But straight after I felt horrible and really bad for what I did and stayed faithful for around another 9 years into the relationship. The second time I took it further was with another pretty girl who also seduced me. I never pursued any of these girls by the way. But at that point I think I was feeling a little bored at home. I was still into my ex, but I craved he excitement and that's what made me go there. I feel as a man flirting could always lead to something else so if you have these issues get your man to stop. If he's sincere he will, if he's not he won't. Simple! As I mentioned I had plenty of opportunities to cheat in between but I just didn't want to. As a more mature man I don't think I'd cheat again as I want a clear conscious and hated having to hold any lies away from my ex girl in that last relationship. Plus all of the friends I've ever had would sleep with girls they flirted with and the ones who didn't cheat just simply didn't flirt And yes it was also an ego boost. Edited January 11, 2016 by Davidjo
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