Herzglut Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 Hello guys, to make it short: My ex-boyfriend lied to me that he has no Facebook when we first started dating. I am not stupid, though, saw his FB app on the phone with notifications when he was showing me something on said device. I only had to type his name afterwards and his profile popped up. Nothing scandalous, he just lied to me about it and I only confronted him a few weeks after the break-up, telling him that I am not mad or anything but he has to understand that all those times I was acting aloof was due to the shady output not matching up. The only social media account he actively uses (and added me with) is Instagram. I noticed 3 days after he suddenly, out of the blue, stopped texting me, that he unfollowed me. I didn't say a thing and just turned my profile from public to private. 4th day, I changed my picture on Whatsapp from when I was working out (he's a fitness junky but I didn't do that to get his attention - I am just as much into fitness but started working out more after he started pulling the fade-out so I could actually get off my mind from the break-up that was lingering around the corner) Anyway That same day I noticed that he blocked me in Instagram. Not just deleted, he blocked me so I couldn't see his sparse updates anymore. I was wondering whether he did that to spite me because he wasn't able to see any of my updates anymore? Because a week after that, when we messaged each other again to 'finalize' the break-up, he said we don't mesh well, I am too conservative and he's just not wired like that blah blah. But that the sex was good and he loves my company - but can't see me as a gf. He added that after the holiday rush at work (until mid-January) I am welcome to visit him whenever I want to. I still didn't ask him why he blocked me. And he ignored my New Years text. Didn't message him since and am going through day 8 of no-contact. I also made my profile public again but still....I am wondering why would he block me if he's open to the idea of still being friends with me? Guys, why would a guy do that, can you give me some insight about the psyche of a guy that acts the way he does? What's his damn problem?
Qboro90 Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 He doesn't wanna be your friend. Don't be naive enough to actually believe that. He blocked you because he's probably aware of how often you check social media and didn't want to allow his posts to be viewed and checked in on by you after the break up. Judging by your post, you regularly look at his accounts on facebook, IG, whatsapp, etc. It's his profiles so he can choose who he allows to see his updates. He doesn't want you to see them or monitor his activity which you clearly did during the time you dated. Matching up what he said vs his social media accounts. I'm not saying he was being truthful or being the best BF, but you definitely spent a lot of time looking and worried about his profiles. He's telling you that he doesn't want to deal with you knowing what he's doing by checking his pages or confronting him with things you interpret through his posts. Consider this over and it would be best not to contact him so that you can begin coping and moving on 1
d0nnivain Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 I also made my profile public again but still....I am wondering why would he block me if he's open to the idea of still being friends with me? Guys, why would a guy do that, can you give me some insight about the psyche of a guy that acts the way he does? What's his damn problem? Post break up when somebody says lets be friends, they mean I don't hate you & I don't want to have drama if I randomly bump into you. They don't actually mean they want to spend time with you, talk to you or having anything to do with you. He doesn't have a problem. You do. He knows that when you break up you sever all ties, including social media. You don't need to be seeing what the other person is doing. You need to pretend they don't exist. This guy blocked you because he understands that is the best course for you both. Now you need to stop being concerned about anything he does & focus on moving forward in your own life, without him. 2
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