mylittleone Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 He still gives me compliments, and its killing me..can't go nc because we work together.. Hes moved on already and I'm Sat here wondering why I wasn't good enough.
PegNosePete Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 Tell him to only talk to you when it is required by work. If he doesn't stop, go to HR. That kind of talk has no place in a workplace.
Author mylittleone Posted January 8, 2016 Author Posted January 8, 2016 It's him just being nice, they seriously would do nothing.
Silver_star Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 Whatever reasons he broke up with you have likely more to do with him then you. Keep that in mind and stop thinking its because you weren't good enough. If it is making it harder for you to move on while he keeps having these interactions, keep all contact with him strictly professional and when he gives you any kind of personal compliment, don't acknowledge the compliment, direct the conversation back to work if you are in a work setting. He should take the hint, if he doesn't then you could be blunt and suggest he talk about work related stuff only.
Wewon Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 It's him just being nice, they seriously would do nothing. Tell him to stop talking to you about non-work related things. If he refuses, well so much for how "nice" he is.
PegNosePete Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 It's him just being nice, they seriously would do nothing. If non-work-related chatter is causing you distress, which will undoubtedly affect your work, then it is a legitimate concern and they should take it seriously. 1
Author mylittleone Posted January 8, 2016 Author Posted January 8, 2016 We wasn't dating as such, it been a year long "will we won't we " thing, slept together on a few occasions, and in the end he said he didn't want to date me. Apparently he isn't the guy to fix me..
mrwigand Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 We wasn't dating as such, it been a year long "will we won't we " thing, slept together on a few occasions, and in the end he said he didn't want to date me. Apparently he isn't the guy to fix me.. Well, none of them will be the same one to fix you. Only you can be that person. That being said, I'm sorry this prospective relationship didn't work out. I agree with others that if it's difficult for you to work too closely or too casually with him at work, then I would be very upfront with him. And you don't have to be brusque. You can simply tell him that you appreciate him as a person, but considering the way things turned out it would be helpful to you at the current moment if he could keep his distance at work, or just keep his tone strictly professional.
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