Does she like me as a friend or more?

[Poetical88]

Hi, for the last couple days I've been searching a forum where i can get this off my chest, this place seems like it, so i'm new here hope this wouldn't be a problem.

 

Anyways i'm gonna keep this as short as i can but i would appreciate if you read the whole thing. And English is my second language so i'd like to apologize in advanced for any mistakes.

 

Now i'm in university this is my first year, i don't really have friends in class because i don't want to, so 2 weeks ago this girl came to me and introduced herself asked my phone number etc, she said that it was her last year( that means she is around 24-25 and i am 20) she had to pass one of the course that i was currently taking, i didn't really noticed her in the class too. anyways she asked me to help her study so after class we took a bus together, she showed me around since i'm new in the city, we chat, then sit in a coffee shop and study a little bit, now i'm not gonna call what we have "dates" but let's call it "meeting" and i must say i enjoyed it really much, she was so mature and that's what i've been looking for all my life since i've seen alot when i grew up.

 

So that meeting was done we hugged each other and said goodbyes, and she said i'm welcomed to her house anytime i said the same, that's it. After that we talked on whatsapp about her exam and all that and i must say she was the one that text first all the time, i'm kinda scared about this age gap, not because i care about but i don't want her to think i'm that desperate.

 

After a week she called me and said he had 2 hours available so we could grab a coffee, i said okay but the traffic and all that was miserable she kindly said i don't want you to rush so we called it off.

 

Again after a week we were talking about her exam she said she passed it and thanked me and then asked if i was available tomorrow i had a flight so this time i said "let's meet today" she accepted it we grabbed a coffe take a walk we talked "a lot" again, i looked into her eyes asked her questions and for the first time i was happy with a girl i didn't worry about relationship mindgames it was casual and it was awesome. And the same night since she is in a basketball team, which i love btw because i myself am into bodybuilding so i like it when girls are into sports, she said she rushed from the house so she needs to buy underwear to wear after her basketball game is done, i must say i was really shocked and shy that moment so i tried to keep it cool, i mean i'm a shy guy if was in her shoes i wouldn't say that to a girl. So we went to the store she shopped i want looking around seperately. Then we went to eat some cheesecake we talked a lot more again.

 

And she told me this "Let's tour the city one day, grab a backpack, stay the night at my place and the next day we can hire bikes and tour." I accepted it said it's a good idea, again i was shocked because she was planning forward and 3 times she brought this "come to my place, stay the night" topic, before the bike thing she kindly said i could stay the night and go to airport from her house cuz her was closer, now i'm in my hometown i can see her a week from now and see how things goes.

 

Here comes the real question that bugs me, i really really like this girl, i mean i love her kindness her beautiful heart, it's not just about her looks it's her personality that makes me fall for her because i've never seen someone like her, i've dated alot but never get to be lover with any of them, it never worked out, i don't care about the age gap tho, but what if she sees me as a brother, what if she sees me as a friend? her being comfortable to buy underwear and all that makes me feel like she doesn't care about me as a male that much but on the other hand 2 times we met we were all alone she didn't bring a friend or anything and first time we met she even ditched one. And she constantly invited me to her house and she only knows me for two weeks you know, two weeks and it means i could get her to trust me which makes me even happier.

 

I really don't know how to act, yes she doesn't look like she is 24 she looks a lot younger but what if she doesn't see me as a lover? what do you think? what should i do and how should i play it? What if she is just being friendly? what signs should i look for? i really need help.

 

Thank you for reading. I really really appreciate it.

[smudge21]

Sounds like the start of something special to me.. If you're comfortable to carry on then just go with it and see where it leads. She's clearly into you and feels she can relax and be herself around you (a big win there). She also seems happy to do all the running so maybe you should start initiating some time together. Relationships can start any number of ways and take anything from a minute to a year or even longer to heat up, so don't judge what other people get to what you're getting now. You don't know what she's thinking so don't try to second guess. You have to do what is right for you and if you're happy to take things slow, then carry on. If you want to see where you stand, then ask her. People waste too much time worrying about the answer without even asking the question. She may want more but is also happy to take it slow. She may want you to make a move or may not.. the truth is you don't know. Sometimes you have to take a gamble or just let the game play out on it's own. I think you have something really nice going on there so if it were me, I'd be judging each day on how I felt at the time but I'd be honest with her if I felt that I had to. If she likes you, then she'd understand and appreciate that.

 

 

You'll get more advice from others so see what they say and then decide which is best for you. Either way, enjoy the journey... it's the part of the fun.

[Poetical88]

Sounds like the start of something special to me.. If you're comfortable to carry on then just go with it and see where it leads. She's clearly into you and feels she can relax and be herself around you (a big win there). She also seems happy to do all the running so maybe you should start initiating some time together. Relationships can start any number of ways and take anything from a minute to a year or even longer to heat up, so don't judge what other people get to what you're getting now. You don't know what she's thinking so don't try to second guess. You have to do what is right for you and if you're happy to take things slow, then carry on. If you want to see where you stand, then ask her. People waste too much time worrying about the answer without even asking the question. She may want more but is also happy to take it slow. She may want you to make a move or may not.. the truth is you don't know. Sometimes you have to take a gamble or just let the game play out on it's own. I think you have something really nice going on there so if it were me, I'd be judging each day on how I felt at the time but I'd be honest with her if I felt that I had to. If she likes you, then she'd understand and appreciate that.

 

 

You'll get more advice from others so see what they say and then decide which is best for you. Either way, enjoy the journey... it's the part of the fun.

 

 

Thank you for your answer, i believe you are right, i should just go along with the flow and see where it goes and as for my part i think when we spend time together i should drop some hints that i like her more than a friend and see how she handles it.

 

I will try my best to "make sure" she know i like her, it won't be easy because of the age gap because i don't want her to think i'm some immature kid but yes she started this whole thing i can't keep waiting for her to come, i must take action. Again thank you very much for your opinion.