wendieann Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 Okay. Break up was on Jan 1st. My fault. I texted that evening upset and missing him. No contact until tonight. I broke down. Tomorrow is a new day. NO CONTACT DAY 1:
d0nnivain Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 Good for you for picking yourself up & brushing yourself off. Healing is not always a linear progression. You will go backwards once in a while. Hang in there. 2
ScienceGal Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 The first couple weeks are usually the hardest. Don't forget to be kind to yourself :-) You can do this!
kittyxo Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 Okay. Break up was on Jan 1st. My fault. I texted that evening upset and missing him. No contact until tonight. I broke down. Tomorrow is a new day. NO CONTACT DAY 1: Good job! Keep going. I was on 1 month NC but I texted him on NYE wishing him a happy new year.. I did feel a little upset because he didn't reply, but to be honest, I felt like I needed it because now I have no urge of texting him at all. Why? So I can get no reply again? lol 1
spriggan2 Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 All I gotta do is put my mind to this sh_t. Cancel out my ex I put a line through that bitch.
Author wendieann Posted January 9, 2016 Author Posted January 9, 2016 Okay. Break up was on Jan 1st. My fault. I texted that evening upset and missing him. No contact until tonight. I broke down. Tomorrow is a new day. NO CONTACT DAY 1: Well, I survived today. Only a few meltdowns at work. A few sympathic words from customers. One asked if I kicked him out. I said through my tears No. Many said it was too bad he left. Many said I will be ok and they are there for me. Small town love. It did give me strength and I cam home, boxed up a bunch of his stuff and dropped it off at his daughters. She wasn't home so I sent her a text. NO CONTACT DAY 2[
Neffer Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 You are doing really well, and it will get better. It will. You are just at the start, the roughest part. It's just like anything: a diet, an exercise program - super hard at first but it gets easier as it goes along. No contact is really the only thing that will get you through it. Hang in there. If you have setbacks, just restart. We have all made post breakup contact with our exes - and its easy to think its a good idea (at the time) But no contact will heal you and help you like nothing else.
spriggan2 Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 (edited) Fellow no contact struggler here too. Week 1 (last week) was insane for me. I had an urge to send her an email like my life depended on it, but I held out. This board helped a lot. Last night I got smashed and was on my phone about to send her a drunk text, but luckily I had already deleted her contact info and couldn't find her name lol. Phew... Going into week 2 I feel pretty relaxed. I'm depressed as heck about the breakup and my life in general, but I don't have much desire to reach out to her. I feel like time helps, but at the same time, the longer she goes without contacting me, the more I'll start to wonder if she's truly moved on, then it sort of builds your urge to contact her. I just hope my growing disinterest can overpower my curiosity about her growing disinterest. Edited January 11, 2016 by spriggan2 1
Author wendieann Posted January 13, 2016 Author Posted January 13, 2016 Sprig. Lol. Did the exact same thing. I had deleted his contact info. After a day I panicked! I ended up finding an old phone bill. Restart: Day 1: I do admit after stupidly texting I am not depressed or anything. Just relieved. Read it. Don't. Whatever. It's off my chest. I am planning on setting up some social dates this weekend so I am not alone. I do admit a part of me was going to back down. - I didn't want X knowing I am moving on... you know...just in case. bang head on wall. SOO.. I am keeping my movie dates with my guy friends. The ones who slide away when I started dating him. How are you all doing? Any restarts?
spriggan2 Posted January 13, 2016 Posted January 13, 2016 No restart yet...just a slow, agonizing sense that I'm imploding every second I don't shoot her this email I've written, (for the 10th time).
Author wendieann Posted January 21, 2016 Author Posted January 21, 2016 I hear ya!! I've stepped back a few times. Yep. I can get through this!! Valentines Day will suck big time..
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