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I just meet creeps or stage five clingers in OkCupid!

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Ok. I have done what I shouldn't have done. I reactivated my OLD profile. Immediately regretted doing it, because the pattern is repeating - guys who come talk to me are either horndogs or stage five clingers.

 

There was this guy who bought me a gift before even meeting me in person.

Another guy who would talk to me both in OKCupid and WhatsApp, all at the same time.

Another one who, because I changed my profile picture, said that I was a playette and that I was not interested in him anymore.

 

This last guy I began talking to... He is 5 years younger than me, interesting, cultured, clever, etc etc. We began texting, but he confessed a past of mental illness and other family issues and since that was a big red flag I began texting him less and less. Well he is always asking me what I am doing, sending me those awful texts such as "I am so bored.. What are you up to?" and if I take a while to answer he says "Don't feel like talking today?". I just can't. I don't even know the guy and he won't lemme breathe.

 

Now I am online in OkCupid, and I am not talking to this guy or texting him. Then he texts me saying "Well... I see you online in OkCupid. It seems you wanna talk to anybody but me".

 

I just blocked him.

Damn it. Does anyone actually stand such a clingy behavior? The guy is DESPERATE. And most guys I met in OkC are either desperate or horndogs.

I just had to delete this guy, I can't do this.

 

Do you girls tend to like guys like this? Am I overreacting ?

LostOnes05 Established Member

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So...uhhh...what are you up to?! Haha jk...but really, what are you up to?

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So...uhhh...what are you up to?! Haha jk...but really, what are you up to?

 

LOL! Silly... :p

frus69 Established Member

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I suppose we all meet weirdos every once in a while. I normally just ignore, sometimes have to block when they are getting me scared.

 

 

But I always forget about it quickly. I don't understand why it bothers you that much.

 

 

If I were you I would just stop using OKC, problem solved

SwordofFlame Established Member

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You know if you aren't pleased with the messages you are getting, you could send messages to men you actually are interested in. Just a suggestion.

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Popsicle Established Member

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I like clingy behavior, except I don't even engage with men I'm not attracted to, so when a guy I'm really attracted to acts clingy, I love it.

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I think sometimes guys looking at women's pictures on a dating site, start to feel like they're browsing a catalogue. They see a picture like the one in your avatar, and they are salivating as if you're a nice set of golf clubs. I'm not sure if I'd characterize what you described as clingy. More like disrespect and entitlement. Especially some men who paid a lot for a subscription, they act like you have the word "in stock and ready to ship" stamped on your forehead.

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Bobbi7 Established Member

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Yeah, that is just a turn off! Especially the guys that I've haven't even met in person yet! You can see their true colors once numbers are exchanged.

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I've had similar experiences with OKCupid. I once had somebody new message me while I was at the the gym. I was there for a few hours and didn't check my phone. I replied to her three hours after her initial message and she said "You know if you didn't want to talk, you could have just said so." I never responded. The funny thing is I would have loved to talk to her too!

 

Some people just take a lack of response as being ignored, when it usually just means the other person is busy.

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LOL! Silly... :p

 

I try...:)

 

I think sometimes guys looking at women's pictures on a dating site, start to feel like they're browsing a catalogue. They see a picture like the one in your avatar, and they are salivating as if you're a nice set of golf clubs. I'm not sure if I'd characterize what you described as clingy. More like disrespect and entitlement. Especially some men who paid a lot for a subscription, they act like you have the word "in stock and ready to ship" stamped on your forehead.

 

You forgot the tracking number!!! Haha ok...i'm done now.

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I've accidentally clicked a guys profile on my phone app, which lead the guy to send me 4 messages in a row asking to get to know me and how amazing I came across yaddya yadda.

 

I've had guys message me as though I was just put on this earth purely for their gratification and not even consider me a human.

 

You're not alone :(

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