Jakegulinding Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 I appreciate all the replies from my last post but I need loads more answers Girlfriend of 6 years and mother of my two young children broke up with me a week before I was going to propose. We have never been in an other relationship before and no previous partners. I'm so devastated and I don't know what to do now I can't move on. I told her the other day I was going to propose but she broke my heart because she dumped me. She said she doesn't want a relationship at the moment. I have the ring beside my bed and anytime I look at it I'm depressed. I think I'm just going to give her the ring and tell her she can sell it or do whatever she wants with it but I don't want it because I have to try move on. The thought of her meeting someone new kills me. I've always loved her and gave her everything. What should I do ? The thing that bothers me aswell is that we have no previous partners and our sex life hasn't been great. I just hope she didn't dump me because of that Do you think she left me because of sex. As we have never been with anyone else.. It kills me to think that as I've allways treated her like an angel
Qboro90 Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 Sorry to hear about your breakup. How old are you both btw? Whatever you do, don't give her the ring you purchased and let her sell it. Why would you ever want to do that? You're basically throwing your money away. If you wanna give it to her so she feels bad because you loved her so much and we're gonna propose so it guilts her into getting back together... Then your intention is misguided and won't work anyways. Bring the ring back to where you got it and return it. And do it ASAP. Even if she got back together with you tomorrow, you aren't going to be getting married as you planned. She's too unsure at this point. Get your money back and realize that marriage is off the table for the foreseeable future with her. That will get you past holding out hope that she'll come back and things will go back to normal and act like it never happened. Staring at the ring on your nightstand is just prolonging this. The sex life isn't why she left you. You are the father of her kids so you are always going to be in her life. What did she say the reasons were when she ended it? Did you ask? Odds are she told you already why she wanted to break up so trust that and resist overs analyzing things that will just drive you crazy for no reason. 1
Author Jakegulinding Posted January 8, 2016 Author Posted January 8, 2016 Sorry to hear about your breakup. How old are you both btw? Whatever you do, don't give her the ring you purchased and let her sell it. Why would you ever want to do that? You're basically throwing your money away. If you wanna give it to her so she feels bad because you loved her so much and we're gonna propose so it guilts her into getting back together... Then your intention is misguided and won't work anyways. Bring the ring back to where you got it and return it. And do it ASAP. Even if she got back together with you tomorrow, you aren't going to be getting married as you planned. She's too unsure at this point. Get your money back and realize that marriage is off the table for the foreseeable future with her. That will get you past holding out hope that she'll come back and things will go back to normal and act like it never happened. Staring at the ring on your nightstand is just prolonging this. The sex life isn't why she left you. You are the father of her kids so you are always going to be in her life. What did she say the reasons were when she ended it? Did you ask? Odds are she told you already why she wanted to break up so trust that and resist overs analyzing things that will just drive you crazy for no reason. Thank you for your reply. That is pretty much one of the reasons why I'm giving her the ring so she will feel guilty and depressed. She wouldn't sell the ring as I know what she's like. She would keep it or try give it back to me. The reason why she broke up is she wanted a break and not be in a relationship. About 5 months ago she asked me if I wanted to do a couple swap and I said no. So that makes me think she obviously dumped me because she wants someone else.she even told me she thought sex was overrated which is an ego killer as she had no previous partners. I told her she is my first and only and I told her she could experience someone else once I was there with her. I'll wait outside.. I know myself she will never find anyone as good as I was to her. She is bipolar and I know no other guy would stick with her
Qboro90 Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 Thank you for your reply. That is pretty much one of the reasons why I'm giving her the ring so she will feel guilty and depressed. She wouldn't sell the ring as I know what she's like. She would keep it or try give it back to me. The reason why she broke up is she wanted a break and not be in a relationship. About 5 months ago she asked me if I wanted to do a couple swap and I said no. So that makes me think she obviously dumped me because she wants someone else.she even told me she thought sex was overrated which is an ego killer as she had no previous partners. I told her she is my first and only and I told her she could experience someone else once I was there with her. I'll wait outside.. I know myself she will never find anyone as good as I was to her. She is bipolar and I know no other guy would stick with her Personally I wouldn't wanna marry a bi polar chick and stand outside hotel rooms while she bangs other guys. That's just me tho 1
Author Jakegulinding Posted January 8, 2016 Author Posted January 8, 2016 Personally I wouldn't wanna marry a bi polar chick and stand outside hotel rooms while she bangs other guys. That's just me tho She did say no to that. Because I was proving to her that I don't want anyone else.
Qboro90 Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 She did say no to that. Because I was proving to her that I don't want anyone else. You've never been with anyone else tho, why would you need to prove anything? And it doesn't matter if you don't want anyone else. If she wants to see what else is out there, then you're not gonna magically change that. And encouraging it or saying you're ok with her having sex with another guy and you'll just wait outside like a doormat is just weird to be perfectly honest. Why would you even think to bring that up and make it a thought in her head? What if she wasn't thinking about that or anhtjjng sexual related at all, until you brought it up an piut the idea in your head. She knows she can do it now and you won't leave her. In fact she can do it and say "you told me that I could!!! Why are you angry that I did now!!!? If you are each one another's firsts then I'm sorry but it's only natural for you each to be immature in terms of knowing that you found the right person for you beyond doubt. You've never been with another woman... What if you end up meeting a non bi polar, better. Looking woman who blows your mind in the bedroom and reacts to make you think you're dynamite in the sack as well during the next few months ? Furthermore, you don't know that she won't meet someone who she falls head over heels with and never looks back. You can't rest on your laurels
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