Gaeta Posted January 9, 2016 Posted January 9, 2016 Sitting here right now in one of those "lows" and realizing many of you are right. I'm dating way too soon. Problem is, I like this girl and I've given her my heart basically and she's excited. I don't want to hurt her, and to be brutally honest, I enjoy the intimacy. Something completely lacking in my marriage. However, I'm realizing I'm still missing my ex a times and that isn't good. I have no idea why I miss her. We got in a huge argument tonight actually. But, for whatever reason I still have these moments of doubt as to why we are separated. My ex isn't having those moments. She says she's sad, but never says "I miss you" when I've said it to her. OMG I'm messed up. You say 'I miss you' to your ex?
Author Radarsat Posted January 11, 2016 Author Posted January 11, 2016 You say 'I miss you' to your ex? I did once in a text to her. I was drinking some wine and may have been a bit tipsy.
carhill Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 My question is, given the fact that I have a 7 year old girl and and a 4 year old boy...when would it be okay for me to have the girl I'm dating over to hang out? I would only do it at this stage when the kids have been put to sleep and at this point, having her stay overnight would not be an option. Not yet anyway. I at least know that would be a mistake given it's only been a month dating her.Setting dating health aside, every woman I dated as a single man, other than my exW, had children and, generally, I never met them until we were quite far down the road to an exclusive relationship, generally when sex became a front burner item. Otherwise, they'd meet me or I'd pick them up outside. With those who had children whom I had relationships with, the kids would do overnights while the adults were getting to know each other sexually. In general, the kids and I didn't mingle much, though I did do family 'dates' with a couple of the ladies. I think this style could apply to a man too, especially one with both genders of children. If I were a parent, I'd probably do similar. Yeah, the kids would know I'm socializing with women but it wouldn't be in their face. I think the only lady I had sexual relations with while her children were home was the grandmother who also had a 15yo daughter still living at home. While young, sure, she understood adult things and we didn't have any issues.
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