wendieann Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 My X still has a bunch of odds and ends here. Quite frankly I don't think he really wants them back. I am wondering whether to drop them off at his daughters doorstep or not to bother. Part of me wants to because they upset me to look at them. Another part of me wants to to either find closure (?) Or an excuse to see him? (Maybe hear from him) It's petty stuff too. I feel sick to my stomach right now. I know this shall pass..just kills me inside. What did you do with their things?
Nickr3023 Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 My X still has a bunch of odds and ends here. Quite frankly I don't think he really wants them back. I am wondering whether to drop them off at his daughters doorstep or not to bother. Part of me wants to because they upset me to look at them. Another part of me wants to to either find closure (?) Or an excuse to see him? (Maybe hear from him) It's petty stuff too. I feel sick to my stomach right now. I know this shall pass..just kills me inside. What did you do with their things? A mutual friend got my stuff from her house and then took the stuff I had and gave it to her. I couldn't bring myself to see her or to go to her house and pick stuff up. I'd probably suggest doing the same if you feel physically ill thinking about it.
TheArtist Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 The only closure that ever works is totally no contact. Take them to his daughter's house, ring the bell and walk away. Done. 1
DrMario Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 I bagged mine up and put them away somewhere out of sight, it's still pretty difficult knowing that they are there but I don't have the heart to throw them away and I have no solid method of contact with her to arrange to give them to her, she wouldn't reply either way, she has been a stone wall since she decided it was over, I'm sure I'll eventually think of something to do with them once some more time has passed but if it's hurting you right now and giving you a weakness by wanting to reach out, maybe you should leave it alone for a while until you are in a clearer mindset to figure something out?.
newmoon Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 the dumpster out back... afterwards i was sorry i didn't donate to goodwill or etc., but the feeling of actually taking it all out the dumpster...:) (and i do this for them all, it wasn't just one guy who got dumpster treatment)
basil67 Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 If the things are easy to replace, just throw them out.
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