Hurt and confused Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 (edited) I just found out that my husband has been seeing someone . He walked on me and our 3 children last July saying he couldn't take anymore 2 of our children have special needs . I thought it was just a faze as he has done it before . In November we where both talking about getting back together . We where together for 18 years. Now [she] keeps rubbing there relationship in my face . Our home and the kids access is now in the hands of lawyers . Any advice would be greatly appreciated Edited January 8, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
ladydesigner Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 (((Hurt and confused))) I'm so sorry you find yourself here. Keep posting and reading here as there is a ton of good advice. Well you started the most important part of the process and that was by seeking a lawyer. In the meantime take care of yourself and remember to eat and drink water because I lost sight of anything normal after Dday. If you cannot seem to get by please seek out a therapist and possibly anti-depressants (that helped me so so much). Keep conversations with the ex to strictly finances and kids and look into the 180 for yourself so you can start distancing yourself. Also see if there are any divorce care support groups in your area.
dichotomy Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 This is hard, but with your kids, and special needs kids, it must be really hard. My heart goes out for you. A good lawyer, a good therapist, good exercise (try yoga with a group if possible), and any local support network you can develop (family, friends, groups, etc).
flowergirl14 Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 Check out chump lady. There is a poster over there with special needs kids too. Be strong. You cant continue nor should you want to live with someone who ping pongs back and forth. There are many men who have special needs children who do not cheat. 2
turnera Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 I just found out that my husband has been seeing someone . He walked on me and our 3 children last July saying he couldn't take anymore 2 of our children have special needs . I thought it was just a faze as he has done it before . In November we where both talking about getting back together . We where together for 18 years. Now [she] keeps rubbing there relationship in my face . Our home and the kids access is now in the hands of lawyers . Any advice would be greatly appreciatedI assume you mean his girlfriend is rubbing it in your face? Then I would send her a text or email: "GF, I just wanted to tell you thank you. If you hadn't showed up, I'd still be stuck with a deadbeat husband who doesn't deserve the awesome wife and family he just lost. Good luck! We're all taking bets on how long before he cheats on you, too. " 1
LifesontheUp Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 Hugs to you. 18 yrs is a long time (I know I was there) but look to friends and family for support.
TX-SC Posted January 10, 2016 Posted January 10, 2016 So sorry you are going through this. You deserve much better than this. If his AP is stalking you then get a TRO in place and block her on all social media. As for that POS husband of yours, get the divorce and get as much child support as you can. You can find someone else to love you. This is not the end of your world, just the end of your marriageto a cheater.
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