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". Sometime has really went by and by now we both grew and matured. I truly enjoyed all the time we spent and feelings put aside i really liked you as you are. Your personality, values, yoir qualities, the way we could've talked about anything. That closeness we had and all those thibgs we shared were very special.

 

I enjoyed all the things we did and all the moments we shared. I just thought after all that we had and now we're at better places mentally we couldve started over and have a better healthier relationship.

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Background info. We were together for about 4 years. It wasn't working and we just decided to end it but have been talking on and off a lot lately. I would like to see if we can salvage what we had because its worth it you know.

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anybody willing to help a guy out.

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Pretty vague to be able to help you out. You say you were together for 4 years and you ended it because things weren't working out.....well what wasn't working out. What caused you guys to say after 4 years that enough is enough? Gotta have a lot more details to know whether reconciliation is worth it (by the way, it rarely is).

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Well because of circumstanes such as work and school we were unable to see each othef alot and it just became difficult. We couldnt hang out much or talk like we use to. We just grew apart and after a while it just stopped. We disnt talk for a while and she just startes messaging me alot.

 

She wanted to meet up but it couldnt happen that day because of an incident in the country. So afyer new years she contacted me some more and i asked her to meet up . she said yes so we most likely meet up and i would like to throw out reconciliation there.

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I'm not throwing this out because I'm madly in love. We really got along great and it felt right. It was just unlucky how things were it got really difficult for us. Now that things are easier though I'm hoping that we could try again and form a better relationship.

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Do not send it to her. If you want to reconcile, meet up with her & talk in person.

 

 

When you ignore the above & decide to send it, spell check it & fix your grammar first. Nobody wants a love letter with errors.

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This was just something i thought of sending if i did not meet her. lol ofcourse i will fix it i just wrote it up here quickly. my apologies.

 

Does it come off desperate or anything like that though? because i dont want it to sound like that at all. I just want it to sound simple and firm. if it does not happen i understand.

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If you want to say those things, tell it to her in person rather then send her a letter or message.

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I get where you are coming from, sometimes you just can't bring yourself to see it during the relationship and for a while afterward, in hindsight I loved my exes personality, despite our fall outs she was a very kind and caring individual who I would be very open with about anything, but like your situation, ours fell apart mostly the same way, though we lived under the same roof, circumstances changed and we saw each other less than we did before the move, it's frustrating to me that we couldn't get passed it, but that's life I'm afraid, I would tell you to tell her straight up how you feel, there is no way what you have said can be taken in another way than the genuine way in which you said it, so I see no harm in it but depending on your frame of mind right now, I see something to lose, one one hand, you could say all this and be rejected, and on the other hand you could say nothing and possibly regret it, I would say something but that is just what I would do, question is, what do you want to do?.

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Personally im good. I'm over it I don't hurt, I dont sulk. I keep busy and try to achieve my goals and get things done for myself and my future.

 

Whatever comes out of it I will be fine. If she says no and rejects well its nothing really. Will just be the ultimate closure.

 

I want us to try again because we really had something. Ik a lot of people say the same but im sure if we could do it again it would be great. So im willing to take a risk of rejection. Even though my pride might be affected i dont mind. I think that its worth it anf im willing to try again.

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I also feel that after this it will be the nail in the coffin. Its over and i will accept it and the little weight on my shoulders will be lifted off.

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That's not a bad viewpoint to have, looking back at a previous relationship from a long time a go, it took opening up one last time and being rejected one last time as the final push that I needed to get over her and the failed relationship, I hope it works out differently for you though, I really do.

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