jamieting Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 I was with my ex boyfriend in 2010. He is very, he knows that I do not have time for lunch and gave me a lot of nutritional bars. Once he surprised me with flowers to my home even though I never gave him my address. He pretended to ask to see how my identity card looked like so he remembered my address. When I'm tried and do not want to meet him, he will just ride his bike over to see me to kiss me good night. The relationship didn't work out cause I became paranoid when he went back to Australia to help his ex move out of his house. It was hard to contact him and we don't communicate. He only sends his daily morning and sweet dreams. He couldn't stand my neediness when he's away and we broke up. I tried to patch with him but only to receive his replies only if I'm sleeping with him. 2014 he contacted me to try dating with me again. I was doubtful because he only wanted sex when I asked to patched the last time. We did hang out once or twice, than he hardly message. I assumed he wasn't interested so I didn't message him. I met my current bf and we shortly after getting together, my ex message me apologising to be away as he was taking care of his mum who was just diagnosed with cancer. I told him sorry that I am attached. He said he will wait. He's still waiting. I would message him when my current bf quarrels with me, when he breaks up with me and when he chases me out of the house. But always my current bf will apologise and we will patch things. My current bf he's nice, patient just a little naggy when I do not listen to him. Like picking on my pimples, tip toeing (correcting the way I walk, what I should eat and that I should exercise, to consult him before making any big financial decision. He's very upset that I bought a ppty with my sister because of the price and the loan i have to take, that I didn't do any research and trust my siblings. I like that he replies my messages. He doesn't take hours or a day to reply. I like that he cries easily, like when we watched Big Hero, when I gave him birthday surprise or during valentines day surprise. I love that he love everything I cook. He's not financially stable like my ex and isn't looking to settle until he travels the world for two years. He doesn't like my country which is my home. Our relationship is more stable, I rarely get chased out of the house we rarely have the huge quarrels like before. My ex he said he's still waiting I am not sure what I should do or who I should choose.
Lurkeraspect Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 I think ex #1 should stay an ex, and current boyfriend (emphasis on boy) should become ex #2. 6
LoveRefreshed Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 The fact that your ex has any thought whatsoever implies you don't want your boyfriend now. You should end it so he can find what he deserves, a lady that loves him and wants to be with him. Not a girl that's waffling on her emotions. Not sure how needy you can be in the time it takes an ex to move out of a house, sounds like ex2 is 'waiting' while he's single.
PegNosePete Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 I think ex #1 should stay an ex, and current boyfriend (emphasis on boy) should become ex #2. Yes, precisely. Ex #1 just wants sex and you know it. It is incredibly rude and disrespectful of you to message him whenever you have a fight with your bf. BF chases you out of the house? WTF? Dump him right now. 3
Versacehottie Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 Neither. They both don't sound very good. Good luck
Cherryz Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 How old are you? I really thought i will be advising you about the ex. But looking at your story i have to advice you to stop dating and work on your self esteem. Because you seem to make very poor choices when it comes to choose bf's. None of them is treating you amazing. There are alot of redflags that you shouldnt accept of any person. Work on yourself and what you want in life. Stop accept rubbish for 2 dollars. While there is better guys out there. But you really need to work on yourself first! Both guys are not good for you. There is nothing cute in there! tHE way they treat you should make you mad! Not talking about little stuff that they like about you like: sex with you and your cooking! 2
BMI03 Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 I was with my ex boyfriend in 2010. He is very, he knows that I do not have time for lunch and gave me a lot of nutritional bars. Once he surprised me with flowers to my home even though I never gave him my address. He pretended to ask to see how my identity card looked like so he remembered my address. When I'm tried and do not want to meet him, he will just ride his bike over to see me to kiss me good night. The relationship didn't work out cause I became paranoid when he went back to Australia to help his ex move out of his house. It was hard to contact him and we don't communicate. He only sends his daily morning and sweet dreams. He couldn't stand my neediness when he's away and we broke up. I tried to patch with him but only to receive his replies only if I'm sleeping with him. 2014 he contacted me to try dating with me again. I was doubtful because he only wanted sex when I asked to patched the last time. We did hang out once or twice, than he hardly message. I assumed he wasn't interested so I didn't message him. I met my current bf and we shortly after getting together, my ex message me apologising to be away as he was taking care of his mum who was just diagnosed with cancer. I told him sorry that I am attached. He said he will wait. He's still waiting. I would message him when my current bf quarrels with me, when he breaks up with me and when he chases me out of the house. But always my current bf will apologise and we will patch things. My current bf he's nice, patient just a little naggy when I do not listen to him. Like picking on my pimples, tip toeing (correcting the way I walk, what I should eat and that I should exercise, to consult him before making any big financial decision. He's very upset that I bought a ppty with my sister because of the price and the loan i have to take, that I didn't do any research and trust my siblings. I like that he replies my messages. He doesn't take hours or a day to reply. I like that he cries easily, like when we watched Big Hero, when I gave him birthday surprise or during valentines day surprise. I love that he love everything I cook. He's not financially stable like my ex and isn't looking to settle until he travels the world for two years. He doesn't like my country which is my home. Our relationship is more stable, I rarely get chased out of the house we rarely have the huge quarrels like before. My ex he said he's still waiting I am not sure what I should do or who I should choose. Do you really think the ex is waiting? Or is he doing this own thing as a single guy and making you feel like he would be there when/if you become available? That would be my bet. And as for the current boyfriend, do right by him and cut him lose. I would want to hear the honesty around your hesitation to be with him because of your attraction to your ex, so that he can make his own decisions too instead of facing an illusion that he is in a happy relationship.
Recommended Posts