Paranoid that HE DOESN'T TRULY LOVE ME! What do you thinK?

[ExpatInItaly]

I like your answer but I want to point out the fact that I never said I want to get married right NOW. Nor anytime soon. But I do talk about it, as girls do, because of the excitement. I'd talk about it even if I was single. Pretty much all of my friends and his are married so while my brain tells me it's unrealistic I have to look forward to it. He's 26 and I'm 22 but we are both in the process of getting degrees.

 

What do you want him to tell you? There's no sense telling you he wants to marry you just to ease your conscience. Some of those young marriages you're seeing now won't last anyway. I don't mean to be cynical but it's reality. Don't worry what people around you are posting on social media. You need to stop comparing him and yourself to them. When I was around your age, the same thing was happening. And now at 34, I can say that only maybe half of those couples are still together today. You have plenty of time.

 

The most important thing is that you seem to be making decisions and judgments out of fear and based on what other people are doing, thus sabotaging your own happiness. Needing reassurance that he misses you, wants to marry you, wants you over at his house all the time is too much and eventually you will eventually push him away if you keep it up. Relax. Take a few deep breaths. Let him come to you more. If he doesn't, then you reconsider whether this working for you.

[ExpatInItaly]

Yes that's EXACTLY what I'm saying! I don't know if maybe he was with someone else he's "crazy about" he would act different. He claims it's just him. Thank you for not jumping to the conclusion that I'm needy! maybe I am a bit, but that's not what I'm trying to get to. And the answer is, he was always like that. Never changed through our whole relationship.

 

So why do you not trust that he's telling you the truth? He's been consistent. I don't understand why you don't believe him, that this is just who he is.