Liono84 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I went through a breakup several months ago which brought me to this forum and this is my first posting on the non-breakup forum. I recently found a girl on Facebook whom I met a few years ago for a mutual friends' wedding. It was roughly 4 years ago, so it's been a long time and have not seen her since. Even though we were sitting on the same table, next to each other, and had good chemistry and shared laughs, I had a GF at that time, so I didn't really think much of her. I don't have any potentials or prospects whom I'm taking to or dating at the moment. Do you think I should friend request her, message her or should I not even bother since it may be weird since it was 4 years ago and it would be very random, now?? I don't friend request people who I don't know too well, so I'm very cautious of it. I also don't like when random girls friend request me so I'm worried that she may perceive that of me. To be honest, I really don't even know if she'll remember me since it's been 4 years. The reason why I'm even debating is because I thought she was cute at the time and could potentially see something working out if the ball rolls, even though it's a long shot....
Silver_star Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Maybe just send her a message if she is able to receive messages from non friends. That way she wont feel obligated to friend you and knows your intentions right off the bat. Maybe say something to the effect of: Hey, I know this is kind of weird but I totally saw you on my feed in "friends of friends" and I remember you from the wedding of (whomever) where we were sitting at the same table. I really recognized your picture and remembered laughing with you at the wedding. How have you been doing? See if she is responsive to that. If she is, then she is interested and remembers you. If she is not...then she probably has other things going on in her life and is not interesting in entertaining your message. If that is the case, leave it at that and don't message her. Couldn't hurt?
truth_seeker Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 (edited) Yes, you should. Send the friend request along with a message. "Hey, Jane, this is Joe. You came up on my People You May Know list on my FB feed and I immediately recognized you from XYZ's wedding. We sat at the same table, shared some good laughs that night. How are you?" Boom. You don't come off like a creep. You come off friendly and give her good reason as to why you're reaching out to her. Edited January 6, 2016 by truth_seeker
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