Nas30 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Hi everyone- My bf and I were in a relationship for just over two years. Recently due to work training, I have been living 1.5 hours (trainee doctor) for the last 3 months but would see my bf on days off. He has children from a previous relationship so he could rarely visit me. Last week, unexpectedly at work, my shifts got swapped with a team member so I had the next day off (and for the following 3 days). I decided to surprise my bf by driving to his house the next day. I text my bf as usual asking what he was doing- he replied, he had finished work, was having a bath and cooking his tea. By this time I had set off on the motorway to his house really excited to surprise him. I arrived and his car was not outside (i thought he must have popped out). I went inside the house and there was no sign of his work boots/overalls. I used the bathroom and the bath was not wet with no sign of his work clothes. I text my bf asking what he was doing and if he had his tea. He replied, he was lying on the sofa falling asleep so was having an early night. Never heard from him all night. I WAS SAT ON THAT SOFA! I decided not to tell him anything, I had a shower and went to bed. He did not come home all night. I confronted him the next morning and he said - 'he finished work, went to the gym and ended up staying a mates place(male friend). He claims he never said he was specifically at HOME. Strange how his gym bag was at home. And he likes to take baths at friends house with no clean clothes to wear after?! I believe my bf did cheat on me - A mutual friend told me today she had seen his car parked all night in the drive of his ex gf's house a couple of weeks ago. He cant verify staying at his friends house as he said ''his friend is away and his phone is broke'' I DUMPED HIM. He is adamant he did NOT cheat on me. My heart is telling me he did.... Did I do the right thing?
Author Nas30 Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 (edited) Why yes you did. So I am right?! He DID cheat.... he has been trying to convince me otherwise so even I am doubting myself? He claims he NEVER said he was at 'home'. Yes he was out- at a friend's house! Edited January 6, 2016 by Nas30 spelling
jen1447 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 So I am right?! He DID cheat.... he has been trying to convince me otherwise so even I am doubting myself? He claims he NEVER said he was at 'home'. Yes he was out- at a friend's house! I have no way of knowing for sure but assuming your story's accurate it sounds like a no-doubter. The way a lot of ppl pull off getting away w/this sort of thing is exactly what your ex did - try to plant the seeds of doubt based on some remotely plausible explanation. The thing is, there's always a remotely plausible explanation, but that doesn't change the fact it isn't so. But ppl who are invested in the other usually want to believe, so it's easier to fool them. Good job not getting caught up in that whirlwind.
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 It looks like he probably cheated. It doesn't really matter because he lied to you. You can't trust this man so yes, you did the right thing by ending the relationship.
Silver_star Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 He is lying. I would say with 99.9% confidence he was cheating on you. Maybe not physically having sex, but he was out with someone else that he couldn't tell you about (not his buddy)..and he obviously slept over there. Not cool. You did the right thing. Go with your gut and your heart. It is right 100% of the time. Don't be the fool. I have been there. It sucks, but your deserve more. If he did it once, he will keep doing it.
ExtraSpice Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Well he def did not come up with a good cover up story at all. Did he cheat? I have no idea but the possibility seems very high. Did he lie? From your story that is def true. So either way I say you made the right choice. Just stick with it.
hippychick3 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I would have done the same. He lied to you repeatedly. How could you possibly trust him again? Whether or not he actually slept with somebody else, no one here could tell you. But he really had no other reason to lie (and that he did do). Don't second guess yourself.
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