hazbeard Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Hi! I'm new here, but thought this would be a fantastic place to ask. I met this great girl through online dating, and we had our first date on Monday. Chose a great vegetarian place to take her, as she is about as close to full veg as possible. Surprised her with a rose when she got there. Had a great lunch, and we just hit it off like you wouldn't believe. Conversation flowed really well, body language was all very positive, compliments and whatnot. After we realized that nearly 4 hours had passed, I ended up offering to pay the bill, which she was pretty adamant that she share. She even gave me something that she made for me, which really surprised me, and made me smile beyond belief. Walked her to her car, all hugs and whatnot when she left, and said that I would love to do something like this again soon, which she agreed with. Texted her that night, no response. Tried to call her the next day, and no answer, so ended up leaving a nice voice mail a few hours later when I tried again. Still haven't heard back from her at all, and after two days, she still has not answered the phone. Am I just reading into things too much? I thought that the date went really well, and as much as it goes two ways, I'm just a little confused. Any advice?
Gaeta Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I'm sure she had a good time but she did not like you 'that way' that's why she insisted in paying her share of dinner. Sorry.
Author hazbeard Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 I'm sure she had a good time but she did not like you 'that way' that's why she insisted in paying her share of dinner. Sorry. See, I'm not 100% certain that is the case. I only say this because where we met (OK Cupid), of the questions that we answered, she said that she always pays her share of the cheque, even if someone offers to cover it. I'm also the kind of person that absolutely despises being paid for, so really unsure how to interpret it.
Gaeta Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 If you browse around here you will see that when a woman goes on a first date and she is swept away or even just like the guy enough to see him again - she will await his text or call with impatience. I would never ever ignore 3 CALLS from a man I had a great date with and I am looking forward to our 2nd date, n-e-v-e-r ! Unless she had a car accident and is on life support - there is NO way she did not see your 3 communications! Her silence is indicative of her lack of interest.
ScienceGal Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 It doesn't sound as though she is interested in another date with you. I don't think there's anything else you can do, you've reached out enough. The ball is in her court.
Author hazbeard Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 Crazyness. Been way too long since I've hit the dating circuit, got lots to learn I suppose. I'm considering reaching out one last time in a few days, then leaving the ball entirely in her court from that point on. I know she was super nervous about dating, as she's never done it this way before. I'd like to hope that it's just nerves, but time will tell.
Gaeta Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Crazyness. Been way too long since I've hit the dating circuit, got lots to learn I suppose. I'm considering reaching out one last time in a few days, then leaving the ball entirely in her court from that point on. I know she was super nervous about dating, as she's never done it this way before. I'd like to hope that it's just nerves, but time will tell. Hon, you will come across as a cligny weirdo. You've done enough. If she wants to talk to you she has your 3 messages already. She doesn't need a 4th one. A woman that is interested in you will text you the same night or the following day to let you know she had a great time.
Author hazbeard Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 That makes perfect sense. May leave it and move on.
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