Ex has boyfriend for year, moved to another state an still think about her alot

[Kevin Kristopher]

Met ex in arizona in college, im 22, we broke up, still hooked up for a year, had sex an stuff, but wouldn't get back together then she got another boyfriend. So i've Moved to another state for the summer to not think about ex, start over a bit, got a high paying job now what more do i need to do to not think about ex, i feel a lack of confidence and i think and dream about her alot an i don't like it becuz she has another boyfriend, what do I need to do to get that confidence back to talk to other girls an be myself again? pleez help!!

[willduggan]

the best bet is this, stay busy, go out having fun, make new friends or have fun with old friends, something that takes your full attention, so you dont have time to think about her, make a list in your head of all the BAD things about her, the way she chewed loudly, the way she would critisize you over this and that, etc. remember, there was a very valid reason you two broke up, it can only mean theres someone out there way better, someone who doesnt let the things about you get to them, they actually see them as positive traits:) i know its easy to say these things, and hard to follow through especially when your not SURE you are gonna get someone else, but think... you really do know you can hook up with someone, give it a little time, and do your best to be happy:) your next post should be a huge list of all the things about her that bugged you and what you will look for in a better companion:)

[John Charles]

become a player. theres plenty of sights on the web. its a hobby that 1. takes a lot of your time off her 2.allows you to see many many more girls. You'll prolly be rejected a lot of the time, but you'll have to get use to it. its a right of passage if you will, in our society today, its part of being a man, knowing how to date that is. and being a player is the best kind of dater. you'll lose the habits of the nice loser guy that has been stuck on one girl. DAMN 1 year? I obsessed about one girl, but at the same time pursued my player career. Its fun, because there are all these other girls out there, many times a lot hotter, and if you say the right things, do the right things, you'll always have someone to go to. I do have more girl friends than homies, and theres one thing i know is they all say the same thing. "we like the nice guys." however, as soon as a nice guy comes around they are quickly turned off. Its hilarious this hypocrisy. My point is when you become a player you'll never have to worry about dwelling ever again, so its like preventive medicine- at the same time curing you of your former B'tch.

[Kevin Kristopher]

thanks john charles i really understand that, real talk an i been sayin the same crap to myself an for some reason its not turning on and its probly because my other problem, i actually Fantasize about her, she's got the perfect ass an i'm an ass fanatic, even found a porn star that reminds me of her (terrible huh) i guess i didn't see how great it was untill now she's wit someone else, so now its like i look for a chic that reminds me of her and i know thats not good an its just when i go out i don't know if i'm tryin to talk to girls to smash (have sex) or tryin to meet them an get to know them an be nice (the nice guy type) so with all that, my confidence is really damaged and before it was off the scales, i could holler at almost any chic, help me out give me some more advice pleez!!!! thanx again tho

[John Charles]

stop fantasizing. psychologist know- you cant break habits really you just replace them. replace the girl, fresh faces. your thinking frame should be "im fishing." dont be a player then, if it snot about getting laid- i suppose your beyond that- those guys hunt, all that energy, for chick with no depth. if your fishing you just chill, and get to decide which to keep. your bait is your charm, the confidence you exude, the intelligence you smooth. no woman likes a nice guy, only those losers in high school that hold hands, and cuddle yuck. real women, by instinct want a man with power- money, looks, but most of all character. this is the one dept. you can easily bank on.

 

to conclude dont be a nice guy or a frigging player, be a gentlemen that has transcended the weakness of a nice guy and the unhonorable player. there are billions of books man, do your research, itll keep you mind off your hoe,and when you find what your looking for the only thing you might remember is that... weird year when you use to think... about... o... whats... her... name... ???.... (get going, good luck)