clia Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 What is his goal amount and when does he foresee reaching it?
Vercetti Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 What is his goal amount and when does he foresee reaching it? Going from op, there does not seem to be a goal, let alone an amount to reach it. My guess he wouldn't be able to cough up a grand if pressed. Unless op omitted information, her boyfriend is just blowing one and delay. Given together for a few years one would hope THEY had plans and were working as a team ( or at least not against each other). Anyhow wish the best for op, when she gets with the right person...any wasted time will be made up quickly.
Kittenpaws Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 (edited) Moderator note: Threads merged at this point I feel completely confused and lost in what I've been continuing to feel... I am 28 he is 35. We initially met online and there was the initial sparks and excitement but I don't think I ever felt wildly crazy in love or crazy lusting after him like I said we have been together for almost 3 years and I'm sure there are other factors that keep me from feeling strong physical or sexual attraction to him. At times I don't want to kiss him at all... And sex is always a good idea until I'm around him. This sounds so horrible because he has been a great guy and always there for me ... I just can't figure out how to fix this. If I tell him I know he would be crushed... Anyone would. I also know it's not fair with me hiding these feelings but I feel besides all this hidden confusion I truly love him. Also, sometimes/ a lot of the time lately... I fantasize and think about other men... Whether it be guys at my gym or people from the past I never had the guts to talk too. (I use to be the awkward fat girl... But I lost weight and got really into fitness/ I guess I should ad my boyfriend is obese... I typically was attracted to bigger built men but... Somethings missing) Please some advice. I'd hate to lose him but I'm also so confused Edited January 6, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
CarrieT Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I just can't figure out how to fix this. You can't fix what is not there: i.e., DESIRE. If I tell him I know he would be crushed... Anyone would. You don't have to tell him the "real" reason - just that the relationship isn't working for you and you want to break up. He will beg, plead, etc. Just hold firm in your resolve. I also know it's not fair with me hiding these feelings but I feel besides all this hidden confusion I truly love him. But you don't love him enough. You love should instill desire and since it is not, there isn't enough to make a connection that will last.
carhill Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Well, at least you didn't marry him. Kudos for that.
William Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Folks, I merged two threads on the same topic from a member who is using duplicate accounts in violation of our policies; however, the topical material is valid and the backstory is relevant so what will happen is the listed starter will be banned and the most recent username will be restricted in their use of the forum. Please address the most recent postings and continue the discussion in this thread. Thanks!
introverted1 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 OP, do you think your lack of desire stems from your bf's unwillingness to move the R forward? Or is it something else? Either way, sounds like your R is at the end of its life.
dobielover Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 He said he has over $20,000 saved. He spent a lot on his car( as per usual) he works in the production/radio industry. He makes well over 60,000 a year and next year he'll be making even more. I have my own career His spare time is usually him working, going to the gym or he's occasionally with me Sounds like a good package At his age, he should have at least that much saved. I'd be scared for him if he didn't. Living at home though, he should have multiples of that saved. I don't see how this is a good package for you, or for any woman.
Gaeta Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 You were unhappy back in August and here we are 5 months later and you're even more unhappy. When will you realize you are with the wrong man? You are not married, you don't even live together, why to you hang on to a man that makes you so unhappy? 1
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