Selenna Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 My prof. in uni, started to stare at me constantly when we started our course..especially while talking in lecture, it is quite uncomfortable for me & students also look back to see why he is looking. Recently he started teasing & picks on me to joke around. He is very friendly, & a funny person therefore all students like him a lot. 1. He teases me in terms of my attitude & behavior, + I am a very cheerful girl & he always likes to make me laugh. He always look deep into my eyes which is so weird 2. At one time, he was staring at me constantly when I was hugging my friend after presentation and was smiling at me.Later during feedback he was like I see you were hugging which is very unprofessional, however I was hugging my best friend after the presentation was over.. also hugging your friend is not obliged to be professional .. but my group got the highest mark anyways. 3. He always tell me non stop to use public transport, don't know why he don't like me to drive my own car. 4. He always listen to my conversation with my friends & smiles on his own.. 5. When he cancels lesson, I always have a big smile on my face & he says to me " look at u, so happy u wont see me ey, I know I know and laughs.. but what does he know 6. When I told him I won't be able to come to his lesson for a week cause I will be going on holidays he was kinda pissed off.. & later I emailed him saying I can't do the tasks so to make a note of it.. but he didn't respond to my email.. very strange. 7. He always watches my movements such as who I'm talking with etc. For example if I don't talk to my friends I usually speak to he asks me why I am not talking to them.. but I don't know why it bothers him so much:confused:.. He is mid aged & he is creepy towards me but I don't know if he is attracted to me or just like me as his favorite student cause generally I have a very immature personality & look like a school girl not a university student. I would like to know your opinions. Thanks
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 If what you are saying is true, that is a bit creepy. However, some of it may be in your mind. When I was a professor I tended to make eye contact with the students who were paying attention. Perhaps that is why you think he's looking at you. I doubt he's eavesdropping on your conversations with your friends. Professors do not like it when students prioritize fun holidays over their studies so that explains his attitude when you told him you were missing class. Ask a friend from class to observe his behavior & give you their opinion. Do not initially reveal what you suspect. Just ask if the friend thinks the professor treats you differently. If the friend confirms your suspicions, report the professor to another advisor. Do not try to speak to the professor on your own. Get the school involved.
stillafool Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 (edited) You wouldn't know he's looking at you unless you are looking at him too. Stop looking at him so much and create distance between you if you feel uncomfortable. I don't think he is romantically interested in you at all. I'm really trying to figure out what is so attractive about an immature personality that you think he likes. Edited January 6, 2016 by stillafool
Author Selenna Posted January 8, 2016 Author Posted January 8, 2016 Of course I look at him..so does every one but not constantly, and also you can tell when a person is looking at you through peripheral vision which I think you are perhaps missing. Keep figuring out what is attractive about immature personality, by the way everyone has different preferences. Just because you hate them does not necessarily mean others do it too.
preraph Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 I translate that part about not answering when you said you can't come for lessons as his disapproval of you skipping that, in other words, acting like a professor. He can't give you special privileges and endorse that. There are plenty of professors who will flirt or have affairs with students. So I'm not saying he's creepy or not -- but if everyone likes him, I'm leaning toward not. Because usually people can spot a creep.
hasaquestion Posted January 8, 2016 Posted January 8, 2016 FYI, professors don't respond to an email pretty often. They are usually swamped between writing grant applications, overseeing research, writing papers, the courses they teach, administrative duties, every other kid sending them emails... I wouldn't assume he ignored your email out of spite. 1
RedRobin Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 (edited) I am a professor. I routinely ignore emails from students who are flaking. Not sure about the hugging. If you are giving a presentation, then yea, it is unprofessional unless the topic inspires hugging. Ie the person giving the presentation is a cancer survivor... Etc. your standard run of the mill presentation? Nope. Save the PDA for after class. And the staring? Not sure about that either. Lots of young men give me the googley eyes in class. They are often the ones who are acting up too. Do you make a habit of chatting in class? Distracting others? Generally being a pain? Yea, I stare at those students sometimes. Works great to get them to quiet down. My suggestion? Treat your education like a job and your professors as someone who might be in a position to give you a recommendation some day. That, and no matter how 'hot' you think you are... A seasoned prof has seen 100s file through their classroom. You are not all that. Tone it down and get to work. P.s. And take public transportation. Better for the planet. Edited January 11, 2016 by RedRobin 1
Els Posted January 11, 2016 Posted January 11, 2016 2. At one time, he was staring at me constantly when I was hugging my friend after presentation and was smiling at me.Later during feedback he was like I see you were hugging which is very unprofessional, however I was hugging my best friend after the presentation was over.. also hugging your friend is not obliged to be professional .. but my group got the highest mark anyways. It's REALLY weird to hug your colleagues after a presentation... not surprised at his reaction. 6. When I told him I won't be able to come to his lesson for a week cause I will be going on holidays he was kinda pissed off.. & later I emailed him saying I can't do the tasks so to make a note of it.. but he didn't respond to my email.. very strange. This doesn't merit much response except for a shake of the head... I would like to know your opinions. Thanks I think you should try to focus on school a bit more. 1
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