Afro Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 She is my first love ever and we are in relationship for almost a year. I havent' revealed it to my parents yet that she is my GF. They just know she is my friend but obviously they have their own doubts. Problem is she is coming to meet me next month and we plan on going out to travel in my country but my parents are frowning upon this saying its not normal for me to go with her like this and nobody is suporting me into this Now today my sister said why am i trying so hard to make this relationship successful when i can get someone in my state locally too? Can anyone please tell me what should i answer to question like this as it makes me very mad. I dont have an answer to this but all i say its not easy to find a loyal girlfriend like her and now moving on to new relationship by dumping her doesn't seem fair to me as well and it would be like killign it myself would be very bad on my side This is really stressing me out as my health has also deteriorated. Please me me out on this
Glitters Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 How old are you ? Have you ever met her before ?
ExpatInItaly Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Same questions as above - have you met before in person before, and what are your ages? Also, is she going to be staying with you?
Author Afro Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 We both are turning 25 in few months time. I have met her once in real where i stayed with her for 2 weeks in hotel and we spend time 24x7 with each other She works in another country and I am in my country. I plan to move to her country for few months so yes we both have decided to stay together by renting an apartment. Her family shouldnt mind since they are quite liberal but my family will definitely mind and I dont want to let them know i am living in with her as it will cause another world war
Erik30 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 (edited) You're almost 25... do what you want. You don't have to answer for anything. And it's easier said than done to "just find someone locally." Edited January 6, 2016 by Erik30
ExpatInItaly Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 At 25, you're old enough to do what you want. This is the age when we really start realizing that sometimes we need to choose our own paths even if it means others won't like it.
Gaeta Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 They say that because they have more experience and they know best but that being said, tell them you understand their concerns but you're allowed to make your own mistakes and learn from them just like they got to make theirs.
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Since you have met, and she already has plans to come, I'd go through with those plans. Let your family spend time with her too. They probably are concerned because they don't know her. They also have a more realistic view then you about immigration issues. Love doesn't always conquer all when governments have to be involved. If you do end up moving to her country do not immediately move in with her. Date more conventionally for 6 months to a year.
PegNosePete Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Can anyone please tell me what should i answer to question like this Well, what is the truthful answer? Why are you with her? I'm not being rhetorical here. There must be a genuine reason you are with her. Just give that reason in answer to the question. She is amazing, you can talk about anything, you have a lot in common, you .. get the idea. 1
stillafool Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 At the age of 25, why do your parents not want you to have a girlfriend?
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