Sophie9 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 So I've been talking to this guy since September, when we started talking he quickly told me he wasn't ready for anything because he had just gotten out of a long relationship not too long ago. I was okay with it but still hung out with him every now and then, in November he then asked me if we could maybe try us but take it slowly. I am super into this guy so obviously slowly to me was great, we hung out more and he started always introducing me as his girlfriend. We then had a little talk and agreed that we were exclusive. Since he doesn't have much of a family he celebrated Christmas with mine which was super nice. So far so good, the only problem is that lately he hasn't been as good at communicating. He told me a few days ago that he wanted a night to himself to just relax and be alone, I now haven't seen him for 3 days and we have hardly talked to each other. If we text then it has been me initiating lately and he doesn't put effort in to keep the conversation going. My concern is that he has realized he isn't ready for a relationship after all or maybe he got tired of me. An other concern is that we have been dating for about a month but we haven't really had sex, only once when both of us were drunk. So that fact makes me even more nervous that he might just not be attracted to me.
Redfisher Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I figure he has a few chicks on the go.... Just a gut feeling. I think you could do better, Seems you will have problems with him committing. 1
Ami1uwant Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I think this went to fast for what he wanted. He wants the occasional date and sex but doesn't want to be with you 4-5 days a week.
jonas1235 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 everyone should pursue relationships that are mutual. If naturally, you like him and he doesnt like you the same way, then move on and find someone who does like you. If I liked a girl, I would want to be with her as much as possible.
BluEyeL Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I think this went to fast for what he wanted. He wants the occasional date and sex but doesn't want to be with you 4-5 days a week. It seems he doesn't want even sex. OP, when a man says he's not ready for a relationship believe him and don't get involved . It'll hurt less than dating him for months or even years, not be treated great and eventually abandoned. Dump him, as much as it will hurt, and make yourself available for a man who is ready and will love you. Being stuck here is a waste of time.
smudge21 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I'm pretty much dealing with similar only it's her that is pushing away. I came back here to get the answers I already knew but needed to hear. You cannot make someone fall for you or want you more, they either do or they don't. As much as my interest means so much to me and I do want her, I know the feeling isn't mutual and so walking away is the only option. It's never going to be the easy one, but compared to chasing a fantasy and being hurt even more, it is the better one. Look at it this way, do you feel you're doing all the work, all the chasing and showing all the affection (apart from one drunken night)? There's better out there, people who will return the same love you show them.
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