Girlfriend of 6 years broke up with me

[Jakemaloney]

Girlfriend of 6 years and mother of my two young children broke up with me a week before I was going to propose. We have never been in an other relationship before and no previous partners. I'm so devastated and I don't know what to do now I can't move on.

I told her the other day I was going to propose but she broke my heart because she dumped me. She said she doesn't want a relationship at the moment.

I have the ring beside my bed and anytime I look at it I'm depressed. I think I'm just going to give her the ring and tell her she can sell it or do whatever she wants with it but I don't want it because I have to try move on. The thought of her meeting someone new kills me. I've always loved her and gave her everything. What should I do ? The thing that bothers me aswell is that we have no previous partners and our sex life hasn't been great. I just hope she didn't dump me because of that.

[DrMario]

Believe me when I say this, my heart is truly breaking for you reading this, it would seem you had the most perfect situation going on in your life and understandably so, you are broken up about the situation you now find yourself in.

 

It would be very easy right now to get caught up in a spiral of despair, hoping she won't find anybody new but you must not allow yourself to think of this possibility.

 

You have 2 young children to think about and how you handle this now will show her your character, put them first in line and discuss arrangements that need to be made in regards to seeing them.

 

As you clearly don't want this relationship to be over, I would tell her in your own words that you are upset, you want her, and the door is always open for her should she change her mind, this doesn't mean that you should wait around dwelling on the situation it hand, you could be using this spare time without her to be bettering yourself in ways that you see fit and of course spending precious time with your children.

 

You are going to cycle through many feelings during the following weeks, take yourself out of the heat of the moment every time and think rationally when it comes to what you say and what you do from this point on.

 

Listeb to what she says she needs and follow suit, it isn't easy but maybe you could win her back if you keep these vital lines of communication open, only a maybe though.

 

But if you should wish to move on with your life without her, I would suggest going down the low contact route, talk about matters involving your children and for the rest of the time, keep yourself to yourself.

 

You face a hard road in front of you my friend, but stay true to yourself, be good to yourself and those that you love and somehow, it might turn out fine.