mmx Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 So I am 23 and like a guy who is 2 years older than me and he is a lot more experienced than me. I have only been in 3 short term relationships. He has been in at least 3 long term relationships and has sex with at least 1 of them multiple times. This really bothers me, but I really like him. What do I do?
Gaeta Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 So I am 23 and like a guy who is 2 years older than me and he is a lot more experienced than me. I have only been in 3 short term relationships. He has been in at least 3 long term relationships and has sex with at least 1 of them multiple times. This really bothers me, but I really like him. What do I do? You do nothing, just be yourself. When I met my ex-husband I was 17 and had never been in a relationship and had never been intimate with someone. He was 24 and had been with many women and even had a child at 18. He fully understood I had no sex experience or relationship experience and we did things at my speed. If this man doesn't want to do things your way and at your speed then don't date him. He's not worth it
Author mmx Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 You do nothing, just be yourself. When I met my ex-husband I was 17 and had never been in a relationship and had never been intimate with someone. He was 24 and had been with many women and even had a child at 18. He fully understood I had no sex experience or relationship experience and we did things at my speed. If this man doesn't want to do things your way and at your speed then don't date him. He's not worth it It bothers me that if we do become serious/get married that I wouldn't be the only person he has had sex with or been in love with. It bothers me that other girls/women have a part of him.
Gaeta Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 It bothers me that if we do become serious/get married that I wouldn't be the only person he has had sex with or been in love with. It bothers me that other girls/women have a part of him. It's a common jealousy to have when we are young and with no much experience. I used to be jealous too when my ex and I started dating, especially jealous of the woman he had a child with. That jealousy dissipated as our relationship grew stronger and stronger. Look at it that way. Your guy dated before, he's got more experience so he knows a good woman from a bad one and he picks you. Isn't that worth something?
stillafool Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 It bothers me that if we do become serious/get married that I wouldn't be the only person he has had sex with or been in love with. It bothers me that other girls/women have a part of him. This is silly. Most men you meet will have loved and had sex with other women. Of course you can always look for a virgin if you really feel this way.
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 It bothers me that if we do become serious/get married that I wouldn't be the only person he has had sex with or been in love with. It bothers me that other girls/women have a part of him. You have had 3 short term relationships too so if you get married your husband won't be the only person you have ever dated either. Virgins marrying virgins is the blind leading the blind. It's a romantic, unrealistic fantasy propagated by the media. There's a reason they all end with the first kiss or riding off together because that is when the romance ends & the tough day to day work of keeping a relationship together begins. It's not the 1st person you love that is important. It's the last. 1
LoveRefreshed Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 You're being jealous and insecure if this bothers you. Really there are two assumptions I make when I am with a girl. She's had sex with other men, and she's probably had more sex partners than myself. Truth or not, the only one that really matters is that she's not a virgin. I don't want to take that business. At the end of the day, does any of that past matter as long as they love you? The answer is no, no it does not and your fears are that you won't measure up in bed or that he won't love you like he loved one of the other girls. There is a reason that after all those girls he is choosing you.
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