mmx Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 So I like this guy who lives in a different state. I know that he has more experience than me. There is a good possibility that if get a job closer to him this summer that we could get into a relationship. Anyways, I want more relationship experience and there is a guy near me and I could like him More maybe if we were in a relationship. However, I don't want to loose the other guy. How do I go about this? Can I still talk to the guy out of state as friends...I wouldn't necessarily tell him I was in a relationship.
smackie9 Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Tell long distance guy that you see potential, but to be fair you can't commit at this time until you move closer, so it's ok to date others. Tell local guy you are only looking to date casually.
Author mmx Posted January 5, 2016 Author Posted January 5, 2016 Do I even need to tell long distance guy?
ExpatInItaly Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Do I even need to tell long distance guy? What is the nature of your current relationship with him?
Author mmx Posted January 5, 2016 Author Posted January 5, 2016 (edited) We text each other daily. We have never discussed what we are. I just want more experience with relationship stuff before or if I do date the long distance guy. Edited January 5, 2016 by mmx
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 before you get married? are you planning on marrying this guy out of state? Yeah I'm all about people getting as much experience as possible before marrying. As a person who has not slept with a lot of people in their lifetime. I wish I slept with more and had more boyfriends. I think it would have made relationships much easier because there would be more of an evenness between two people. Most guys are waaaay more experienced than me and it sux. What I find is that a lot of men prefer woman who have not slept with many men where as they have been around the block. The double standard still lingers and that isn't fair. I think you're free to date who ever you want to, and you should. You should experience as much as you can. Your'e young! do it before you get to your thirties and your biological clock starts ragging.
Wewon Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 The title of your thread is understandable. A lot of people want to have experiences before they make a lifetime commitment. However, your OP sounds like you are trying to find that fine line before you become outright deceptive. Be upfront in all of your dealings, treat other's the way you want to be treated and you will sleep better even if you don't get everything that you want this time. 1
Erik30 Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I think it's fine to date other guys, but I wouldn't do it with the intention of gaining experience for someone else. Just do it for you and have fun. You're not in a relationship right now so you can do whatever you want. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Why are you even thinking about marriage if your goal is to get more experience? That makes very little sense from any perspective other than I'm not ready to marry or even get serious yet. Go out. Date whomever you want. Gather the experiences you seek. When you are ready to settle down, then do that. 2
stillafool Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 OP, it really is no big deal to get experience. Stay single, be honest and date whomever you want. Have fun! 1
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