brothers343 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 You better leave this relationship quick or you will be posting how (My girlfrirnd cheated on me with her ex). Im sure you don't want it to get to that level.
phineas Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I always love the way some women badmouth an ex and say they arn't good for them, treated them badly, ect. yet they contact those ex's to "talk" or entertain conversation when they contact them. So one of two things are going on. The woman is F'd in the head or she was full of crap when she demonized the ex. either way i'm out the door when women seek contact with ex's they claim they don't want anything to do with. 2
lolablue17 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 The "i miss you" text has nothing to do with an innocent friendship with her Ex. You are being used as a tool for her, trying to expand her options in life, but being stuck with him. This is no friendship. This is a strong relationship between them. you just play a temporary secondary role in an on going saga between them. 1
Terry8889 Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 Her contacting him in that way definitely crossed a line. Being friends with ex's is fine by me, but the nature of the relationship and how it ended has a lot to do with whether or not it is a valid friendship or still pinning. I do have an ex who I am friends with that she is not a big fan of but accepts it without much drama. So I have to be aware of that so as to not be a hypocrite. You are trying to justify her actions by the fact that you are friends with an ex. This is not about having a friendship with an ex. This is about her having STRONG ROMANTIC FEELINGS and interest for her ex. Her actions speak louder than her words. She misses him and there is nothing in this world you can do to change how she feels. You are being used as a safety net, as a distraction so she doesn't feel lonely when she is not with the other guy, but even then you're are not a good enough distraction because SHE MISSES HIM. If you stay with her the drama will never end because her feelings won't change, she either will dump you and run back to him eventually, or she will keep a relationship behind your back with this guy. Love yourself and don't let her treat you like an option. Dump her and find yourself a good women. 1
nadzz Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 This chick doesn't know what she wants. She seems to have a "grass is greener" mentality and seems to be hopping between the two of you because she misses one of you when she's with the other. Break the cycle...imagine you were married or had kids and she decided she missed the other guy, then what?? Breaking up with someone is hard but you deserve better than someone who isn't 100% in it.
veggirl Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 She's not going to delete him permanently, she's going to tell you she did and take her communication with him underground. She LIED to you about him, she'll do it again. 2
truth_seeker Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I always love the way some women badmouth an ex and say they arn't good for them, treated them badly, ect. yet they contact those ex's to "talk" or entertain conversation when they contact them. So one of two things are going on. The woman is F'd in the head or she was full of crap when she demonized the ex. either way i'm out the door when women seek contact with ex's they claim they don't want anything to do with. Anytime a woman talks up a guy a lot (good or bad) she's way into him. One of my friends, well, I guess former friends as we don't talk much anymore, he married a weirdo off match.com. All she did when I was around her was bad mouth her ex. I told my buddy to drop her. Instead he wifed her up. Bad move.
stillafool Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I I am still on the fence as to this being a deal breaker. I am taking a firm stance that this ex of hers no longer exists for her, not in 6 months, not in 20 years. Delete permanently! End of discussion! But yet you want to throw this guy off a roof. She should be the one you want to throw off the roof. She contacted him, he didn't contact her first. She is still pinning for this other guy. What is her punishment?
kendahke Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 (edited) I am listening to everything said here. I was sure the general consensus would be to drop her like a bad habit. Her contacting him in that way definitely crossed a line. Being friends with ex's is fine by me, but the nature of the relationship and how it ended has a lot to do with whether or not it is a valid friendship or still pinning. I do have an ex who I am friends with that she is not a big fan of but accepts it without much drama. So I have to be aware of that so as to not be a hypocrite. I am still on the fence as to this being a deal breaker. I am taking a firm stance that this ex of hers no longer exists for her, not in 6 months, not in 20 years. Delete permanently! End of discussion! It's easier to demonize her ex because he's not the one you want to [have sex with]. If you kick her to the curb, then that means you go without available sex for the near future and to you, it's better to have access to [her, sexually] even if she's deceitful and lying in your face on a daily basis than it is to be by yourself and not be made a fool of. But in the end, you're being made a fool of because you're not the one she yearns to be with. Think about that. Don't play the fool. Edited January 6, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language
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