Tug of war in my head.

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After 8 months of my relationship coming to an end my ex started messaging me now and then. We talk normal have a little short convo. A few months after break up when she started messaging me i asker her to reconcile well try again. She said she doesnt know.

 

Ive been up and down with emotions and after that she messaged me again. We talked normal and just catched up.

 

I messaged her yesterday and we talked a bit. I asked her if we can meet up this weekend she said yes once she's not busy.

 

I don't wanna come off the wrong we if we do meet up because its not for sure. I'll message her friday and i will know.

 

She was the one who broke it off. I want to try again with he . Ik she needs to be the one to bring it up but how do i attempt reconciloation with her.

 

I would like to give it a shot again. Im at a better place mentally and ik i can talk to her with a clear head.

 

Any tips???

[Zippy2000]

You shouldnt of asked her to "try again". Not until at least you have found out what or why the reason you broke up in the first place.

 

I find it kind of lame of her to try to talk to you again.

 

It reminds me of my ex who broke up with me and thought it was ok to check in on me to see if I was ok. It was like she wanted to check if it was okay what she had done.

 

Of course I wasnt ok but I needed to show I had moved on and it was difficult.

 

You arent going to reconcile until you find out why she split up with you. Also dont be too available for her because you need to keep busy and look after yourself and do other things.

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We grew distant really and she didn't feel the same towards me anymore. She started work and I as well and seeing each other became a problem. She just didn't love me anymore.

 

I don't love her again as well i mean so much time has passed. But i really liked her and spending time with her when we were together. We couldbt do much but whatever we dis was great and we were really close.

 

Id like for us to have that again and have a beyyer relationship. I dont wanna ask her back or come off begging. I just want to choose my words in such a way that she can think about giving it another go.

 

I wanna be strong confident and firm.. If we dont meet well idk. I might just call her later during the month or say what i have to on text.

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I'm really at a lost here guys. Have no idea what to do and I don't want to be needy.

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I'm getting so fed up of this situation now. Sometimes I care, then I don't. Idk if it's because she was my first gf n first love that I'm hooked on so strongly.