dazed343 Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 I just called my gf and broke things off. I didn't really have a chance to say much more, there was some silence and then she hung up on me. Now shes calling me back but Im not sure if I should anwser because I know she's upset and wants anwsers.
em88 Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 my bf just broke up with me. give her answers. she deserves it. you owe it to her.
NTB Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 pick up the call give her the answer or the reason for the break up and then don't pick up anymore it sounds cruel but really it's what needs to be done if you keep picking up her calls she will think there is still a chance of you guys getting back together that's my 2 cents
Author dazed343 Posted June 3, 2005 Author Posted June 3, 2005 she knows the reasons, we've talked so much in the past 2 weeks since we originally broke up 2 wks ago this saturday. Just we slipped back into things and everything was ok to her again. When I called her, I told her I couldn't move back with her and thats when there was silence follwed by her hanging up. She knows shy, I just don't want to talk right now because 1) Im feeling pretty low myself and 2) I know if we talk its going to go on and on developing into maybe an argument or whatever trying to work things out. I just want to leave things for a day, maybe until tomorrow. All I want right now is to get away from work, go home and take something to put me out until tomorrow.
NTB Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 if your broken up and you don't want to get back together than there is nothing more to say walk away and start NC as much for you as for her if you guys keep contacting each other this will just be a long dragged out break up don't pick up her calls and just have no contact she will get the point of course be prepared for the "he's a jerk he won't pick up my calls" stuff that will follow
Bubbles Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 Sooner or later you will have to answer the phone or else she will end up on your doorstep. You know her better than we do so you make the judgement call. If you ignore her today......will it escalate into a mad frienzy by this evening? I know you are probably sick of all this but.......women are wired differently than men. We Feel first and Think later. bubbles
Author dazed343 Posted June 3, 2005 Author Posted June 3, 2005 She called me back and I took the call. She wanted to come down and talk so shes on her way.
Bubbles Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 Why did you say she could come over? Does she have items to pick up? You know she's not going to leave too quickly right? bubbles
sarah12 Posted June 4, 2005 Posted June 4, 2005 I didn't see this thread before I posted about how to do the break up in your earlier thread. Congratulations on going through with it. Of course break ups are never easy and yes she will keep coming back. But you HAVE to stop letting her take you over. You KNOW that she has the ability to manipulate you into getting back together, but just a reminder, here are the reasons you are breaking up with her in your own words: She has two kids which play a big role, because (and I might be wrong here) but as many have told me being in my very early twenties I have alot to look forward too. Im gonna be living in an apartment spending the weekends with her kids and the weekdays at work, then coming home and being unhappy because Im away from my friends and family and never really getting time to myself which I never did really. When we broke up, at night's we'd talk on the phone and she told me she stil had feelings for some guy and until she knew there couldn't be anything there she didn't think it was fair she have a relationship with anyone. Reason #2 for her breaking thinks up was because she knew I wasn't reading for the whole kids thing and honestly I don't think I am. Another small part was that she never told me until last night was that she still has feelings for someone she dated and has been friends with for life, she at least told me anyways that she'd not going to wait around for the other guy. (I feel like seconds...) I only dated her for 2 months, and actually I moved in with her after 2 weeks so things were going super fast. Print this out and re-read it to yourself.
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