singlelife Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I see men who could pass for gay get some of the hottest women. What's the attraction.
Emilia Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Zero for me. I like men that know how to present themselves in a flattering way and smell good but the pampered metrosexual look is a turn off for me. 1
Buddhist Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 (edited) I see men who could pass for gay get some of the hottest women. What's the attraction. I date metrosexual. Why wouldn't there be an attraction? He's a snappy dresser, meticulous groomer, often a really great body too. Why would women only be attracted to your garden variety hetero? Who has a terrible sense of style, often doesn't not work out so a mediocre body and pays little attention to grooming? Men like highly groomed women, well guess what? Some women like highly groomed men. In the not too distant past being a metrosexual was actually a sign of being part of the aristocracy. Why the ideal shifted to the peasant look is anyone's guess.. Men have been fashionable, well groomed and cultured for centuries and it used to be a basic requirement to be seen as a gentleman. It's only very recently that people label that 'gay'. Plus, I'm a sucker for a man with porcelain skin. I'll take a metro any day over the dishevelled uncouth appearance that's considered manly these days. Edited January 5, 2016 by Buddhist 1
Mrin Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Buddhist - how do you view lumbersexuals? As a genre of metrosexuals? I mean they're highly groomed and stylish just in sort of an offbeat way.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 It's personally not my taste; I prefer my men a little rougher around the edges! But everyone is different. 1
carhill Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Common refrain I've heard many times, especially back when I was married and in a group of married and single gals..... 'Ooooh, if only he wasn't gay'. 'Nuff said. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I have great appreciation for all things beautiful and that includes "beautiful" men who spend hours and $$$ on looking like they just came off a photo shoot for GQ. To date them is another story. Anyone who spends that much time and energy and money keeping up appearances on a constant basis is just too much work for me. I like my man to look good, smell delicious and take care of himself of course but I prefer men who come by it more naturally rather than those who work so damn hard at it. And I don't mind the rough edges either. I find that to be very sexy 3
carhill Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Heh, my Clooney friend is like that, always attired and groomed to the nth, even fondled my shirt one time and inquired about the cloth, of course with impeccable manners. He's so, perhaps not purposely, into metro that the guys often wonder if he's gay. Nah, my gay-dar's never gone off, rather blue collar hetero blokes tend to have a skewed view of metro, especially out in the sticks. My sense is women like him but feel he's unattainable, hence why he's nearly my age and never married.
Redfisher Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Buddhist - how do you view lumbersexuals? As a genre of metrosexuals? I mean they're highly groomed and stylish just in sort of an offbeat way. Explain please... Never heard of this but I like how it sounds. 1
Gaeta Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I thought it would be nice to date a metro sexual man till I dated one. He spent more time in the mirror than I did, he spent ex-orbiting amounts of money on skin and hair products. He only dressed in designer clothes and he appeared appalled each time he named a designer I didn't know existed. Again it's a matter of compatibility. I know plenty of women would be delighted talking designer clothes and accessories on their date night, not me. I prefer a man that is not afraid of getting his hands and nails dirty. 1
Woggle Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 It's one of those things that many women say they like but often they don't like the reality of it. 2
MoreAmore Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I couldn't date a guy who spends significantly more time on his appearance than I do... And since I shower, brush my hair, and teeth, and head out the door, that precludes all but the most basic grooming rituals. 1
dobielover Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 (edited) Explain please... Never heard of this but I like how it sounds. If you were to put your beard in a little ponytail, or perhaps add a man bun, and then wear a very fitted flannel with skinny jeans, and an arm full of leather bracelets, you'd be a lumber sexual. They run wild in Northern California. Aka it's a bearded hipster who wears flannel. Aka Brian Wilson. Edited January 5, 2016 by dobielover
katiegrl Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 (edited) I am sure I am in the minority ....but GQ/male model type guys do absolutely nothing for me. I do not find them attractive at all ... yeah I know weird huh. No *pretty* boys for me -- no thanks. I like a man to have a bit of an edge. Both in looks and personality. I don't go for perfectly groomed and coifed. Of course I want him to be clean and dress well --for his particular style. Manly, rugged, man-tailored shirt with sleeves rolled up, well-fitted jeans and boots..... I prefer a nice jeep or SUV as opposed to a beamer or Mercedes for example. Rock climbing, hiking, camping, an outdoorsy type of guy. So no personally speaking, I would neither be attracted to a metro guy nor would I ever date one. They do make nice friends though...... Edited January 5, 2016 by katiegrl
jen1447 Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 He spent more time in the mirror than I did, he spent ex-orbiting amounts of money on skin and hair products. Was that a hilarious auto-correct or hilariously planned? Interesting caveat about metro guys ....IME they're generally more easily dominated and pushed around. I don't know that that reflects directly on their sexuality but it does seem to indicate a correlation between metrosexuality and a lack of traditional manliness. 1
GravityMan Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 My guess is that young women in their teens and twenties who are infatuated with Hollywood trends and celebrities like Bieber and the Kardashians are more likely to be attracted to metrosexual men. I suspect that most other women who have more "normal" lifestyles (indoorsy or outdoorsy) are less likely to be attracted to metrosexual men. Many of them may have male friends who are metro, but dating that type of guy is a no-go. They probably prefer guys that are more obvious in their masculinity and that are able to look and act presentable and good relatively effortlessly (i.e. without trying too hard, taking too long or being a perfectionist). Having a flaw or blemish here and there and not caring TOO much about image can be endearing to a lot of people. That shows that the guy's willing to live a little, able to let things roll off his back, and also helps him seem more human rather than doll-like. 3
Samhain Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I date metrosexual. Why wouldn't there be an attraction? He's a snappy dresser, meticulous groomer, often a really great body too. Why would women only be attracted to your garden variety hetero? Who has a terrible sense of style, often doesn't not work out so a mediocre body and pays little attention to grooming? Men like highly groomed women, well guess what? Some women like highly groomed men. In the not too distant past being a metrosexual was actually a sign of being part of the aristocracy. Why the ideal shifted to the peasant look is anyone's guess.. Men have been fashionable, well groomed and cultured for centuries and it used to be a basic requirement to be seen as a gentleman. It's only very recently that people label that 'gay'. Plus, I'm a sucker for a man with porcelain skin. I'll take a metro any day over the dishevelled uncouth appearance that's considered manly these days. Meticulous groomer? Pfft. Next you'll be telling us that we have to use a different kind of soap to wash our hair to the rest of our bodies. 1
MightyPen Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I date metrosexual. Why wouldn't there be an attraction? He's a snappy dresser, meticulous groomer, often a really great body too. Why would women only be attracted to your garden variety hetero? Who has a terrible sense of style, often doesn't not work out so a mediocre body and pays little attention to grooming? Men like highly groomed women, well guess what? Some women like highly groomed men. In the not too distant past being a metrosexual was actually a sign of being part of the aristocracy. Why the ideal shifted to the peasant look is anyone's guess.. Men have been fashionable, well groomed and cultured for centuries and it used to be a basic requirement to be seen as a gentleman. It's only very recently that people label that 'gay'. Plus, I'm a sucker for a man with porcelain skin. I'll take a metro any day over the dishevelled uncouth appearance that's considered manly these days. I will co-sign your point that men, at least intelligent, successful men, have not historically been "schluby." In the past couple of hundred years, most of the movers and shakers have been well-dressed, from colonial attire all the way up to the 1950s and 60s when men commonly wore suits (and hats) every day to work. I've seen hundreds of historical photos of my city and most of the downtown photos show 99% of businessmen/lawyers/etc in suits, fedoras, etc. If my wife could magically keep every hair on my body (other than my head hair) from growing, she would do it in a heartbeat. She loves clean-shaven (including chest, stomach, etc.) and opposed to hairy, and as she would say, "gross." We are both pushing each other to work out more, as we both readily admit we both look better when we are less "fluffy." So I can see why many women would also prefer a clean shaven, well-dressed, fairly hard-bodied man. I guess it comes down to whether women prefer Nick or Schmidt? ("New Girl" reference since it's returning tonight! Yay!) 1
katiegrl Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 (edited) Why does it have to be either/or though? Well-dressed, clean shaven, hairless body ...or *schluby* and *gross*? There is a middle ground there, and many men fall into that category. For example, I am attracted to ambitious and successful ...but would not be attracted to a "mover and a shaker." I like a man to be very masculine, with an edge, but dislike an overly hairy body as well. A few hairs on the chest would suit me just fine. I want a man to be attractive (to me) who takes pride in his appearance (without being overly focused on it)... ...but am not attracted to GQ/male model types.... I just don't get the two *extremes* as presented by some on this thread. There IS a middle ground! Edited January 5, 2016 by katiegrl 3
LoveRefreshed Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 (edited) This is one of those "Do you find X attractive threads" where X is a simple and superficial preference. (i.e. do you find short hair attractive, not do you find liars attractive) When you have a world with billions of people, many of which are looking for mates and present themselves in a way they find attractive- it's only statistically probable that you'll find someone else with similar tastes such that those tastes are not bizarre and extrapolated beyond social norms. (Piercings versus the gauged ear metal faces, and even then they seem to have a big group of chrome suckers) So yes, I know some women who find metrosexuals to be a turn on. They're clean, they're hairless, usually toned bodies and groomed. They're the pretty boy n-sync lovers. It is of my experience that many women prefer men who are the opposite. I'm barrel chested, hairy, chubby, and unkempt but I work my ****ing ass off, strong, have integrity and toughness, and when I come home, I man handle my woman and she loves it. Some women want John Goodman, some Gerard Butler, some want Johnny Depp, and some what Antonio Banderas... er I mean some women want Orlando Bloom Edited January 5, 2016 by LoveRefreshed My age was showing. 1
PrettyEmily77 Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I like guys because I like them; if they"re metrosexual, fine. If they're not, fine too. As long as they shower everyday and have their own clothing style, I'm good. 1
MightyPen Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Why does it have to be either/or though? Well-dressed, clean shaven, hairless body ...or *schluby* and *gross*? There is a middle ground there, and many men fall into that category. For example, I am attracted to ambitious and successful ...but would not be attracted to a "mover and a shaker." I like a man to be very masculine, with an edge, but dislike an overly hairy body as well. A few hairs on the chest would suit me just fine. I want a man to be attractive (to me) who takes pride in his appearance (without being overly focused on it)... ...but am not attracted to GQ/male model types.... I just don't get the two *extremes* as presented by some on this thread. There IS a middle ground! So is Winston the middle ground??
Buddhist Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 (edited) Buddhist - how do you view lumbersexuals? As a genre of metrosexuals? I mean they're highly groomed and stylish just in sort of an offbeat way. On the right guy? It's awesome. Kind of jack Daniels aesthetic. But it looks best on guys with strong bone structure to their face. Some dudes (if they are seraphim featured/androgynous) can't pull it off. I'm an advocate of many looks, the best one being the look that matches the man. Some guys look amazing tattooed and others look like try hards. What I'm never a fan of is the no-look aesthetic. You know it, the kind of guy that thinks jeans, collared shirt and are belt is 'dressing up'. I like a guy with an attitude, whatever that may be. He's got to have definite preferences and present himself as he believes himself to be. Edited January 5, 2016 by Buddhist 1
CrystalCastles Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 My guess is that young women in their teens and twenties who are infatuated with Hollywood trends and celebrities like Bieber and the Kardashians are more likely to be attracted to metrosexual men. Idk. I'm 23 and I find metrosexual men a huge turnoff. I dated someone who was metrosexual and while he was attractive, the mannerisms and dress were off-putting. I am attracted to masculine men, who dress well (ie. clean clothes, clothes that fit, clothes that are in good condition without holes), have good hygiene, work out and eat well. The guys I date dress plain- shirt, jeans, runners or hiking shoes- and that's what I like best.
CrystalCastles Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 What I'm never a fan of is the no-look aesthetic. You know it, the kind of guy that thinks jeans, collared shirt and are belt is 'dressing up'. More for me, then.
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