st66 Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 (edited) Hi all, I would just like the ladies (and guys) opinions on using the word date with friends. I have a girl who we have a long close friendship/had feelings for each other, had a 2 year break because she was in a relations etc etc They split up, we got back in contact and started down the same road again, well I thought we had. I misread many signs as it turns out but one of them was when I was at a poker game she text me saying 'if you win at poker are you going to take me out on a date?' We exchanged Christmas presents, her card said all my love, thanks for everything with lots of hearts and kisses over it. Her new years eve message said Happy New Year you absolute gem, love you loads xxxx I then thought well I'm going to tell her how I feel again and it all got turned round saying she never wants to hurt me like she did last time, she values our friendship to much for it to be more. So I am completely at a loss as to what has gone on. I like to think I'm quite intelligent but this had done me inquire a lot. So sorry for going on but my question is does this seem like normal friendship behaviour to you or has she been stringing me along? She goes travelling for 4 months in a few weeks so whether that has anything to do with it Your thoughts and opinions will be greatly appreciated. Edited January 5, 2016 by st66
road Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I would of felt the same way as you did. Whoopee I am out of the friend zone at last. However he response shows that she is an attention addict. The kind of woman that likes to string along as many men as she can for an ego boost.
Author st66 Posted January 5, 2016 Author Posted January 5, 2016 I would of felt the same way as you did. Whoopee I am out of the friend zone at last. However he response shows that she is an attention addict. The kind of woman that likes to string along as many men as she can for an ego boost. I thought the same, I didn't think anyone would use the date word without meaning it, especially knowing the history we have both had. She did really hurt me last time so doesn't want to put me through it again but why act like that. She should of said all this at the start when we got in contact and not after months of getting close again. I think because I was there for her to help her through things she used that a lot. I know she was seeing some guy a few months after her break up and I did back off a bit, they must of ended it because she came back into more contact and wanting to do things, at one point texting me at least twice a week wanting to meet up but I was a bit wary and also genuinely busy. But recent;y I think may may be back on as she has backed off a bit going from wanting to se me to when I asked saying I'll let you know. This prompted me to ask what was wrong, she said nothing just really busy with traveling plans and she feels bad when I ask her to do something and she can't. This then ended up in me telling her how I felt and wanted to move forward and her then saying she doesn't want to hurt me and values our friendship to much etc etc I can't understand her change in actions and behaviour to me!?!
Tayla Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Ladies View: One: She cares Two: SHe doesn't want to hurt you Three: Which sentence above makes you "assume" that she Doesn't care? Sounds like she is straight up honest. What leads you to interpret things in a different light?
Author st66 Posted January 5, 2016 Author Posted January 5, 2016 Ladies View: One: She cares Two: SHe doesn't want to hurt you Three: Which sentence above makes you "assume" that she Doesn't care? Sounds like she is straight up honest. What leads you to interpret things in a different light? Thank you for you reply I know she cares about me but the problem I am having is why does she act in one way, asking me to take her out on a date, wanting to spend a lot of time with me and then when it comes to it going back on the not wanting to hurt me. I do appreciate what she is saying but I just don't understand why she would give off these signs knowing how I have felt and still do feel.
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