mmx Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 So I am a 23 year old girl who has dated 3 guys, but nothing longer than 6 months and we didn't really kiss or anything. I want more experience at relationships and this guy that I think is okay wants to date me. Is this wrong?
JustGettingBy Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Dating him 'to gain experience', with a plan to get rid of him is harsh. Dating him with plans to get serious (or at least being open to being serious) is regular dating.
NoLeafClover Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Is this title for real..not selfish at all.. I have a question...what is your purpose or picture of dating?
soph-walker Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 So I am a 23 year old girl who has dated 3 guys, but nothing longer than 6 months and we didn't really kiss or anything. I want more experience at relationships and this guy that I think is okay wants to date me. Is this wrong? Personally I wouldn't do it. Imagine yourself in the position of dating a guy who just wanted to do it for the experience. You would feel hurt, used and devalued. Life never stops being an experience and this is no dress rehearsal So go with your best foot forward and expect something real to come along.
Buddhist Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 So I am a 23 year old girl who has dated 3 guys, but nothing longer than 6 months and we didn't really kiss or anything. I want more experience at relationships and this guy that I think is okay wants to date me. Is this wrong? Yes it's wrong. He genuinely likes you and has hopes it will become something. You are just using him and wasting his time. Would you like someone to do that to you?
oldshirt Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 how do you date someone for 6 months and not kiss? Did you actually go out with them in the real world face to face or were these online arrangements? As far as dating someone who asks you out, I think it comes down to one simple thing - do you want to? At it's core, going out on dates with someone is get to know them and find out what kind of person they are and what they are like and see if they are someone you want to be with or not. The more you get out and do that and the more you get to know how people tick and the more you learn about yourself and what traits and characteristics you want in a partner, the better you become at it and more interpersonal skills you develop. So in other words "gaining experience" does have merit. The reason people tend to shy away from you using the term 'experience' is it makes it sound like you are just using the other person's interest so you can sharpen your skills and dump them off when you feel you have the experience. But until you spend time with someone and get to know them, you don't really know if you will like them or not so all is fair.
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