tamir302 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Hi all, So I started dating this woman a couple of weeks ago. We already went out on three dates and everything is fine. I mean, the dates were pretty fun. The conversations are nice and flowing(though we don't have tons in common), and there's definitely a (mutual, I believe) sexual attraction there. So far we still haven't had sex, only making out, though it looks like sex is coming up pretty soon. Problem is- there's just no spark, butterflies, excitement, you name it. I do have fun meeting up with her and I do look forward to get more physical with her, but there's no "OMG, she's so beautiful and amazing and OMG"! Plus, I don't find her specially pretty- she's just OK. In general, It's like my attitude to her and this whole dating is a "fine, it's nice, so why not?" one. So what do you guys think? Is this lack of spark a big issue here? Or can it develop over time? Is it important at all, if I'm having fun going out with her? I must say I'm not into flings, though I don't necessarily look for the most serious long term relationship either. thx, Tamir.
smackie9 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Have you had any kind of conversation about "relationships"? or about what either of you are looking for? You don't want to lead her on if she is hoping for a serious relationship. Most are always under the assumption that after so many dates or sex that it's heading to a committed relationship. We have had our fill of threads here of women upset because they don't know where they stand.
Author tamir302 Posted January 4, 2016 Author Posted January 4, 2016 Well, I don't necessarily exclude a serious relationship with her. My question is more about whether I should stick with dating her, although I'm not that excited about us.
lilmissjava Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Well, I don't necessarily exclude a serious relationship with her. My question is more about whether I should stick with dating her, although I'm not that excited about us. It's only been a couple of weeks, what is the harm in seeing where it all goes? You are having fun, obviously you mesh well on some level. The wow factor though, you may find that in some you date, but there is always a counter balance (i.e. rotten personality). I do advise though, she will more than likely become more invested once sex is involved so perhaps having a conversation about your true intentions in this situation prior to that happening if at all would be a wise idea.
Author tamir302 Posted January 4, 2016 Author Posted January 4, 2016 I do advise though, she will more than likely become more invested once sex is involved so perhaps having a conversation about your true intentions in this situation prior to that happening if at all would be a wise idea. You mean something like telling her I'm still not sure whether this relationship is going to get serious or not?
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