madison1 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 i went on a date with we will say joe, we met up at California Dreaming. He texted me he was a few minutes late, but he still managed to beat me inside the restaurant. Throughout the lunch we had many awkward silences i didn't know how to fill. He asked the waitress for the check, and she said one or two and i interrupted him and told the lady to split the check. As we were leaving we got outside and he literally was about to walk off and he's 6'2 I'm 5'3 i went into hug him but he was really walking off that he walked into the hug not realizing.. i texted him after saying" Thank you for taking the time to meet up with me! We should do it again if you are up for it!" but i still got a second date for friday I'm so scared!!! especially the physical part.
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 So you're going out on a second date on Friday? Did I read that right? What are you so afraid of? The hard part is over as far as I'm concerned. 1
truth_seeker Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Why do really short women like tall guys? I say the height difference is more awkward than the date itself.
thecrucible Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 The second date will be better because you guys won't be so nervous . Then you can get to know each other better.
strawberryshortstack Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Why do really short women like tall guys? I say the height difference is more awkward than the date itself. It's not as awkward as you might think. I'm 4'11'' and the guy I'm currently seeing is 6'1", and we have no trouble at all. And it's not so much that short women like tall guys - at least in my experience, it seems to be the other way around - tall men have always approached me.
TheArtist Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 The shorter you are the more it feels like we're protecting you when we hug you I think. First dates are really weird, but the fact that you've got a second means that it went fine. Just relax, it's all good.
fitnessfan365 Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 To be honest, I'm shocked you have a second date. Tons of awkward silences w/no chemistry and he was trying to leave ASAP after it was over. I mean you had to actually get in his way to prevent him from leaving as he accidentally went into a hug..LOL
smackie9 Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I say he was pretty nervous, been rejected many times before, thought he blew it when she leaped to pay her portion of the check.
Wewon Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I say he was pretty nervous, been rejected many times before, thought he blew it when she leaped to pay her portion of the check. I agree. Are you nervous about more awkward silences? A few questions: How did you guys meet? If it was through online dating, then I think that you have to adjust your expectations, this was literally your first meeting and there will be some awkwardness. If you met off line and now all of the sudden cant keep a conversation going, then that's odd. Do you talk (not text) between dates? That may loosen you up a bit so that talking starts to feel less like an interview. Also, don't rule out the fact that there may be some natural shyness going on that should wear off over time.
shac Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 The guys with whom I had this silences and didn't make the conversation going when they've seen I am shy sometimes... I never gave them a second chance. And guess what thanks God they never invited me out again too. If it's not some chemistry or bond from the start, relaxed atmosphere by end...It will never work out. You probably don't share the same hobbies. points of view in life. Unless you are like 18-20 something! Then keep it going....
Author madison1 Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 I agree. Are you nervous about more awkward silences? - Yeah i am i feel like i need to fill them, and i don't know how.. he was in a rush to leave and i didn't want him to feel that way. i don't know if it was because of the silences or because i told the waitress i would pay for my half.. i just felt bad. A few questions: How did you guys meet? If it was through online dating, then I think that you have to adjust your expectations, this was literally your first meeting and there will be some awkwardness. If you met off line and now all of the sudden cant keep a conversation going, then that's odd. -We did meet online but barely exchanged messages i deleted my account and told him to text me. We texted a bit just enough to say hi how are you, what he did for a living a little basic stuff, but then i was on vacation, when i got back we decided to meet. Do you talk (not text) between dates? That may loosen you up a bit so that talking starts to feel less like an interview. -no we just text, but for the texting once again it has been how are you, how was your day about twice, just to check in from his end to mine and then he asked if i wanted to go out again this week. he kept up with me all through the holidays he told me Merry christmas, and also after new years asked how mine went. very nice. Also, don't rule out the fact that there may be some natural shyness going on that should wear off over time. yeah I'm still trying to figure out what input i should put on what we could do on the second date.? any ideas? thank you so much very helpful!
phalgal Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I'm sorry your first date was so awkward! It actually sounded pretty adorable and if you guys work out it will make a cute story. What about something like bowling for your next date? It may be a good way to break the tension so you both can just laugh and have fun. 1
Maxtor Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I say he was pretty nervous, been rejected many times before, thought he blew it when she leaped to pay her portion of the check. No he did not. Good for her to pay for her meal. She also had the pleasure of his company.
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