lines Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 My younger boyfriend (6 years difference) broke up with me for no reason. Our relationship only lasted four months. I was not expecting our relationship to end because everything was going well (or so I thought). It has been a week now and I have had the hardest time trying to get over him. He was the first guy I was with, and I thought I had a real connection with him. At this point I am blaming myself for things that I might have done differently to make him happy, but at the same time I feel disgusted at myself for thinking that it was only my fault when I know that a relationship is built by two people and not only one. Sometimes I think that I did not satisfy him sexually since I did not have experience, or maybe I did not show appreciation in the things he did on a daily basis, yet he never talked about things. I am sooooo confused and feel so utterly unloved and rejected. We met at the university and he broke with me during the holidays, now I am going to start my final semester and I have to see him everyday which will makes matters worse. I have to challenge myself to not fall for him again or to cry when I see him. has anyone has gone through the same and have any tips or advise on how to get over this? (I feel my chest is burning inside from all the questions and anxiety I have)
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Could I ask your ages? If you're still in education, and he's 6 years younger than you, are we talking late teens early 20's....?
Nickr3023 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 My younger boyfriend (6 years difference) broke up with me for no reason. Our relationship only lasted four months. I was not expecting our relationship to end because everything was going well (or so I thought). It has been a week now and I have had the hardest time trying to get over him. He was the first guy I was with, and I thought I had a real connection with him. At this point I am blaming myself for things that I might have done differently to make him happy, but at the same time I feel disgusted at myself for thinking that it was only my fault when I know that a relationship is built by two people and not only one. Sometimes I think that I did not satisfy him sexually since I did not have experience, or maybe I did not show appreciation in the things he did on a daily basis, yet he never talked about things. I am sooooo confused and feel so utterly unloved and rejected. We met at the university and he broke with me during the holidays, now I am going to start my final semester and I have to see him everyday which will makes matters worse. I have to challenge myself to not fall for him again or to cry when I see him. has anyone has gone through the same and have any tips or advise on how to get over this? (I feel my chest is burning inside from all the questions and anxiety I have) Well you've certainly come to the right place when you ask "has anyone gone through this?" Well the answer is yes, all of us have been on the receiving end of a relationship ending. It's awful, and it certainly feels like you're not going to get through it. But you will. My advice, and the advice you'll receive from many other people is to cut off all ties and have no contact. It may seem difficult because you go to the same school, but do the best you can to avoid seeing him. If you have a class with him, well then that's going to be difficult...but if it just comes down to switching up your routine so you don't casually run into him, then do that. Walk a different way on campus, go to different social gatherings than he would. Whatever it is, do whatever you can to stay away from him so that you can heal.
d0nnivain Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 I'm sorry you are hurting. He probably had a reason but it may have been something as awful as he got what he wanted from you & now he wants to date others. That has nothing to do with you. Do what you can to avoid him around campus. Change your hang outs. Try to move to a different section if you have a class with him. Get involved in campus activities & keep yourself busy with your job search. You are about to embark on the next chapter of your life -- your 1st job, a new apartment, adulthood etc. Go towards all those adventures with a sense of wonder & enjoyment. Stop thinking about him & your past; they are behind you now.
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