LucidNightmare Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 continuous years without ever breaking up. He lives an hour away so I only saw him mostly on weekends. I was going through ALOT at home and developed anxiety and depression. It wasnt until our last year I began taking medication and our relationship got so much better as a result. So much better in fact that my boyfriend said he was was happy he didnt have to worry about me any more. Now he is questioning whether he ever loved me or just felt like he needed to take care of me. He would always ask me when i was going to propose and I told him when i felt the time was right and my life was more together. When I finally was on medication i felt happier than i had in years and had so much fun with my boyfriend that I stopped caring about finding a better job or going back to school it was like a vacation for me a happy time. I guess he felt that i was finally happy and still wasnt getting my life together and still no where near proposal, and felt i wasnt committed. Now he has left me and is dating a new guy that he just met right before our breakup. He said hes tired of waiting for me to get my stuff together... and this guy has already accomplished alot in his life. We cut off contact for a month and he called me yesterday asking for something of his back and we started talking and agreed to remain in contact again, he warned me that he had a new boyfriend and to not get my hopes up . l acted like i didnt care and that i was happy and moving on, but im really dying inside. I want him back so bad, im losing sleep, im losing my appetite, im losing my mind... ive been going out with friends, going to the gym, even dating someone else but even that doesnt make the pain go away. I cant focus at work, i even dream about him when im sleeping. He was the one for me.. and i want him back. How should i go about doing so? Just work on myself and show him that i have changed? And hope things dont work out with his new BF?
PegNosePete Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Sorry to say, there's really nothing you can do here. He has made his feelings and position quite clear. He is not interested in a reconciliation. The best thing you can do now is to NC. It will help you to get over the relationship and to move on. Remaining in contact with an ex for whom you have unrequited feelings is absolute torture - don't do that to yourself.
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