JustGettingBy Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Both men and women usually say that they want a partner who is 'interesting'. What, in your opinion, would qualify as 'interesting'?
hasaquestion Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Initially, I think its less about what exactly you talk about, and more about how you talk about it. If a girl 'lights up' talking about something then I figure it must be important or meaningful. Conversely, if she seems bored or doesn't open up much then I figure she's just boring herself. That's where the initial impression that someone is 'interesting' comes from I'd say. Its not perfect, but neither are initial impressions.
Beach Guy Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Not being predictable. Change things up a little.
Wewon Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 People that I call 'interesting' usually have a deep understanding of a particular topic as well as a unique perspective on the topic. Anyone can talk about mundane things like what they saw on television, twitter or facebook, or otherwise quote popular opinion. A lot of people can talk about a particular topic and quote studies and articles on it, but it takes a whole new range of thought to talk about something and people able to put your own take on it or speak of it in a new perspective. 2
central Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Interesting people DO things and are passionate about those activities or causes, or are passionate about ideas and actively pursue the exploration of those ideas. They can usually carry on a conversation about their passions. Boring people seldom do much, and are more on the consumption side of entertainment, and may not even have thoughtful opinions about that. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 People that I call 'interesting' usually have a deep understanding of a particular topic as well as a unique perspective on the topic. Anyone can talk about mundane things like what they saw on television, twitter or facebook, or otherwise quote popular opinion. A lot of people can talk about a particular topic and quote studies and articles on it, but it takes a whole new range of thought to talk about something and people able to put your own take on it or speak of it in a new perspective. I couldn't agree more with this post. Someone mentioned unpredictability. There is some truth to this although it could backfire too. I like a man to keep me on my toes in terms of conversation. I love humble confidence and intelligence. Depth and breadth is dead sexy. Someone who is able to communicate effectively and independently without resorting to bumper sticker logic or canned responses. I love a man who has an opinion and who can carry a conversation (you have no idea how hard this is to find anymore). He also needs to listen as much as he talks. 1
TheArtist Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 I like a man to keep me on my toes in terms of conversation. I love humble confidence and intelligence. Depth and breadth is dead sexy. Someone who is able to communicate effectively and independently without resorting to bumper sticker logic or canned responses. I love a man who has an opinion and who can carry a conversation (you have no idea how hard this is to find anymore). He also needs to listen as much as he talks. Yes, I totally agree, but with all the male references replaced with female ones. It is definitely hard to find now, and I certainly have no interest in talking about soaps or television, or to someone who has to rush away because their favourite programme is on. I think 'interesting' is having a different angle on things, to be able to start a conversation on one topic and carry it for half an hour and end somewhere completely different, but all the time avoiding droning on about nothing in particular. 'Interesting' is something that's got to be enjoyed by both parties involved. 1
todreaminblue Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 a guy is interesting if he is passionate and enjoys talking.....makes it easy to be interested in them and gettting to know them,.....deb
Easyguy14 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 a guy is interesting if he is passionate and enjoys talking.....makes it easy to be interested in them and gettting to know them,.....deb Interesting is about being different in all aspects of a person's approach to life and in the way they view life, as opposed to the majority.
Author JustGettingBy Posted January 5, 2016 Author Posted January 5, 2016 People that I call 'interesting' usually have a deep understanding of a particular topic as well as a unique perspective on the topic. Anyone can talk about mundane things like what they saw on television, twitter or facebook, or otherwise quote popular opinion. A lot of people can talk about a particular topic and quote studies and articles on it, but it takes a whole new range of thought to talk about something and people able to put your own take on it or speak of it in a new perspective. So being original or unique? Or, more importantly, showing the (positive) ways in which you are unique? Also, are men and women 'interesting' in the same way?
todreaminblue Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 Interesting is about being different in all aspects of a person's approach to life and in the way they view life, as opposed to the majority. edit................deb
Anderlie Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 'Interesting' is so subjective, what I find interesting in a person you might find boring as all get out. Like, I can't stand anime or video games or Dr who or any of that stuff but judging by the entire rest of the internet plenty of others do. Hence, someone who talked about that with the right person would seem plenty interesting but they'd send me to sleep. 1
Wewon Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 So being original or unique? Or, more importantly, showing the (positive) ways in which you are unique? Also, are men and women 'interesting' in the same way? I find that being interesting is subjective from person to person more than gender. A person into American literature, regardless of gender, will find it interesting that you see 'The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn' with all sorts of new angles to it that they have never heard before. People are typically seen as interesting after some common interest has been established. That's one of the benefits of having an array of hobbies and being well informed. 1
carhill Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 I've noted that being interested is often interesting.
TheArtist Posted January 5, 2016 Posted January 5, 2016 That's one of the benefits of having an array of hobbies and being well informed. Definitely. I think it's being able to relate to any topic on some level, whether it's from personal experience or through reading. If you just shrug and say you know nothing about it, nor do you ask questions about that subject in an effort to learn, then you're bordering on dull.
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