ilovemusic3 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 I'm a 26 yr. old female, and I just can't find anyone to date. And whenever anybody rejects me or I find out I can't date them, I'll cry and cry and get really upset and mad. Does this sound like I'm over-reacting?
soph-walker Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 I'm a 26 yr. old female, and I just can't find anyone to date. And whenever anybody rejects me or I find out I can't date them, I'll cry and cry and get really upset and mad. Does this sound like I'm over-reacting? Bless you, you sound like you're very frustrated! It can feel awful when you have seemingly been rejected- especially after a first date. I think you need to remember that it's not necessarily a clean cut rejection of 'you', more a reflection of a person's psyche which is made up of their past experiences in life/love/dating. People can be too burnt to put themselves out there, or they can be simply not feeling it. Which isn't nice, but you should remember that you are essentially a stranger to someone even on a third date. Think positively also, negative thoughts can be habitual and really don't help how you see yourself!
Platinum Aura Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Very familiar indeed. Overreacting isn't really the word. It seems more like you're frustrated. After my last toxic relationship, I took over a year off dating and just focused on bettering myself. I didn't think I could do it but here I am now.Improved overall health and in a better position at work (more authority, better hours and slightly better overall pay).
ExpatInItaly Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 I suppose it depends on who you're venting to and what you mean by getting mad/upset. Is this something generally done in private, or do you express it all to the person who's rejected you?
kendahke Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Does this sound like I'm over-reacting? Yes. I understand being disappointed. I don't understand an emotional nuclear meltdown over someone you're not even remotely invested in. 1
Author ilovemusic3 Posted January 5, 2016 Author Posted January 5, 2016 I don't let the person regecting me know I'm upset. I only vent to my parents and sister, nobody else. And I don't get upset about any guy in particlar, it just keeps upsetting me that I've met like a million guys and never ended up dating anyone, usually because they all reject me.
TheArtist Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 Rejection isn't the best thing in the world for sure, but unless you're telling them you want to have their babies and that you've chosen the wedding dress on the first date, it's more likely that you're just not compatible with the guy, and that relationship wouldn't work anyway. I don't find a lot of people I connect with either, but honestly, most people struggle with finding relationships (I hope!). How are you finding your dates? Are they online or are you being set up by a friend? How? 1
soph-walker Posted January 7, 2016 Posted January 7, 2016 I don't let the person regecting me know I'm upset. I only vent to my parents and sister, nobody else. And I don't get upset about any guy in particlar, it just keeps upsetting me that I've met like a million guys and never ended up dating anyone, usually because they all reject me. Are your parents/sister able to give you advice on how to deal with feeling this frustration? They are the people that will know you best and hopefully they are able to offer proper words of help to you? Dating is frustrating as hell. Maybe you should have a break and focus on yourself a while? 1
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