Roco23 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Hey everyone So im 23 years old and my girlfriend is 20 Im really an average looking guy and my girlfriend is very attractive i hate to use numbers but i would say at least an 8/10 she has a good personality and i really love her We have been together for 7 months and its been going good except we hardly ever are sexual together...(even though i want to be with her) she says she has hormone problems so i eventually just accepted that she has problems and does not have a very big sexual drive. But i work offshore and was not around her for the festive season and i discovered she has been sending messages to another guy.... this is where the problem comes in the messages involve kisses and stuff also she sends him a lot of selfies and pictures of herself in her bikini...... recently the messages have slowed down towards him with regards to kisses and bikini pictures and flirting but she still sends him plenty of selfies so for me this means she is sexually driven but just not to me? Just was checking if this should be considerd suspicious or cheating ? This was my first post so thank you very much:)
madjac74 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 How do you know she was sending selfies to another guy?
Author Roco23 Posted January 4, 2016 Author Posted January 4, 2016 How do you know she was sending selfies to another guy? Sorry should have mentioned that i saw her phone. im not constantly checking her phone its just that she has been keeping it close lately and always on it so i got suspicious and that's what i discovered
madjac74 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 its just that she has been keeping it close lately and always on it so i got suspicious and that's what i discovered EVERY girl does these days! She may or not be cheating but you were instantly untrustworthy. The problem is on your end. I think you should end the relationship.
madjac74 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 So, she is flirting and sending bikini selfies to another guy, telling the OP she doesn't want to have sex with him, but the problem lies with the OP? Sure, his problem is that he has a disloyal woman. He is also disloyal by snooping in her phone. They trump each other. End of relationship.
Sparta Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 OP get rid of her she's not having sex, why are you with her so you can look at her f*ck that noise. OP you're having problems with her already, you're not getting anything out of this relationship but a major problem. 2
kgcolonel Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Wow....sometimes the "snooping is the worst" attitude is amazing. OP saw a concerning change in her behavior (keeping the phone close by) and not affectionate and then we're telling him that he's the problem???? Laughable. If she's not going to be upfront with him, he deserves the truth to know what kind of person he's with. Even if you take the morality out of the situation, she could be endangering his health through STD's. I do agree however that if you're going to be working offshore, you definitely need a GF that you can trust so that you can focus on your job and not who your GF is doing. 1
Marco Valerio Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Originally Posted by madjac74 View Post EVERY girl does these days! She may or not be cheating but you were instantly untrustworthy. The problem is on your end. I think you should end the relationship. wtf?...doesn't matter if every girl in the world does it...it's not ok, if you are committed to someone you don't flirt around, it's not acceptable. You respect the person who you are with. 2
Friskyone4u Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Women in committed relationships DO NOT send revealing bikini pictures to other men and keep it a secret from their spouse or significant other. The others have called bull **** on the idiotic statement that all women are doing that. Ignoring red flags, and guarding her phone is a big one ( just google it) , is one of them main reasons cheaters get away with it. Their partners do not want to believe they are up to no good. You are young an unmarried. You need to find out why she is doing this before you get any further involved with her 2
Author Roco23 Posted January 4, 2016 Author Posted January 4, 2016 Thanks to you and everyone who has responded it has been a great help to me. I would like to confront her but if i do i have come by the information in a dishonest way(looking at her phone) I really love her and want the relationship to work (if it can still) but don't know how to approach her about it ? Thanks again
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Thanks to you and everyone who has responded it has been a great help to me. I would like to confront her but if i do i have come by the information in a dishonest way(looking at her phone) I really love her and want the relationship to work (if it can still) but don't know how to approach her about it ? Thanks again I hate to rain on your parade but loving her isn't going to be enough. You work offshore which means you're not around a lot which means she has plenty of time to be bad. Between her lack of sex drive and her sending bikini selfies to other men, she's already PROVEN that she can't be trusted. What makes you think she will change?
sambolini Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 He is also disloyal by snooping in her phone. They trump each other. End of relationship. My cheating ex wife said the same thing. Until I divorced her sorry ass. OP, never accept this behavior from a woman. It's disrespectful. Don't become her beta provider who gets pity sex every once in a while. She's using her looks as a means of manipulating and controlling you. Dump her. Now. And good ****ing riddance.
Author Roco23 Posted January 4, 2016 Author Posted January 4, 2016 bro you are right i am going to i just cant take the emotional side of this anymore 1
Friskyone4u Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Roco, Stick to your guns!!! You work away from home and your girlfriend is already in an inappropriate relationship with another man. It would not even be as bad if she was just generally posting on FB for the public to see. She is sending this stuff to one specific guy. And I hate to rock your boat, but if it continues you really think he is going to be satisfied until the bikini top comes off and more. Forget the guilty conscience crap!! Now do not be surprised if she gets all defensive and accusatory of you. That is right out of the cheaters handbook 101. She IS going to be pissed that she got caught, and if you simply take her word that she will stop you will get some very unpleasant surprises. She needs to explain why she feels compelled to send this guy photos and do not accept the "he's just a friend", or "its only innocent flirting". For all you know they have already met in person. Have the confrontation any way you want to, and I suggest you come back to the forum and get some more advice so you do not get what we call "gas lighted'i into thinking you are some over jealous idiot. 1
Imported Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Just be happy you didn't marry her. And congrats on not hiding your head in a hole when you probably had very good reasons to believe she is not a faithful person. What you did is distrustful, not disloyal. But if your girl behaves in an unfaithful way, how can you trust her? 1
PPan Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 So, she is flirting and sending bikini selfies to another guy, telling the OP she doesn't want to have sex with him, but the problem lies with the OP? Sure, his problem is that he has a disloyal woman. The guy himself has stated he is average looking, and that is girlfriend is very attractive. The problem is in him, not the girlfriend. He's not on her physical level. Why would a woman in her 20s who looks like that want to date a guy who is merely average, lol. Dude is being used as a surrogate boyfriend and possibly a bank account, but mostly she's sending selfies of her to guys she wants to bang - and is going to bang- but stays in this ''relationship'' because she gets her emotional needs/validation/attention met and gets sex from hot men from the side. This girl is smart. I'd like meet her
Friskyone4u Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 The guy himself has stated he is average looking, and that is girlfriend is very attractive. The problem is in him, not the girlfriend. He's not on her physical level. Why would a woman in her 20s who looks like that want to date a guy who is merely average, lol. Dude is being used as a surrogate boyfriend and possibly a bank account, but mostly she's sending selfies of her to guys she wants to bang - and is going to bang- but stays in this ''relationship'' because she gets her emotional needs/validation/attention met and gets sex from hot men from the side. This girl is smart. I'd like meet her PPan, Really moronic comment to someone who is hurting. You shoulkd meet her. HYour mentality probably the matches hers as well as your morals and brains
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