Everybodys having sex but me lol

[wellthatslife]

Im not really the type to judge my life to others but damn it sucks sometimes.

I never even seen a girl naked, been with a girl for about 3 years and she dumped me , we never had sex or anything close to it. I feel so lame sometimes when people talk bout it or i even read about it.

 

22 years old i mean ik thats not old but just suck sometimes when i think about it. would be nice to have some sexual intimacy with a woman.

 

And i have no idea where to begin.

[smackie9]

There are college girls that are lookin to make some extra cash.

[wellthatslife]

Im outta school job kinda sucks, i aint got a ride lol. So idk what to really do.

[doeblin]

Ah, pessimism and desperation would be your worst enemies, man.

 

Even very good looking people can have dry patches.

 

 

Approach girls frequently, ask them out... & it will be fine.

 

You need to cultivate a cool cocksure attitude, virgin or not.

 

 

(3 years is a looooong time to go out with someone without sex, unless you were like kids.Kiss on the first or second date, sex on the 4th or 5th or so. But don't sweat it, no hard schedule.)

 

You'll be alright.

[wellthatslife]

I havent really gave it a go since i never had experience approaching women. Ive started tho and doing well.

 

well we were young, high school lovers and idk, guess it just never happenned. she just played me

[smackie9]

Did you even try to make advances and let things heat up???

 

BTW how can you she play you???? You could have dumped her at anytime.

[madjac74]

I didn't have sex until I was 22. Don't stress about it so much. Any goofballs can have sex (many shouldn't). Just find someone who is worthy of you.

[deckard11]

I lost my virginity at 27 and it will be 13 years this month since I've had sex.

[TheArtist]

I was older than 22 when I first did it. Let's leave that one there.

 

You need to look at finding someone you care about and who cares about you, not just finding someone to have sex with. I think that might be the issue. Find a proper connection and it will all happen naturally.

[2much4]

I know a lot of people who never had sex before 23-24 and now have a THRIVING sex life.

 

Sometimes it can be good to wait a little longer. If you start too young you risk having a lot of bad experiences. You overestimate your readiness, do stuff you don't actually want to do and can end up traumatised and disgusted by sex for years. Not saying that happens to everybody, but that's a risk you take.

 

The quality of sex gets a lot better with age, so you're not really missing out on anything.

[five2nine]

Find someone you care about instead of this schedule nonsense (4th or 5th date...lol please). I wouldn't sleep with someone on the 4th or 5th date just because everybody says you have to these days.

 

If you just want to get laid, join Tinder. Find a FWB. Hire an escort for a night.

[wellthatslife]

I dont really wanna rush it butbi feel I misses out on so much. My life isn't reappy going anywhere right now I have no sense of direction.

 

As far as my ex was concerned we we in college. But the thing was we couldn't really see each other outside skl because her parent were really strict. And I never really rushed her or anything. And then things just ended so idk. That was the end of it. Things are hard with her I'm struggling to cut her off right now.

[d0nnivain]

You are in a bad place because your relationship ended, you don't like your job & you don't have a car.

 

 

Try finding a job you like which pays enough to get you a car. Then ask a girl on a date. You had a GF once. You can get another one. Put in some effort once you overcome the whoa is me attitude.

[TheArtist]

My life isn't really going anywhere right now I have no sense of direction.

 

You need to work on this before you include anyone else in your life. Find a hobby, something you care passionately about, look for new work, join a club. You need to be happy in yourself before you try to be happy in a relationship.

 

If you just want sex, then go and pay for it, but I think you'll be disappointed you lost your virginity that way.

[kendahke]

You have some work to focus on, it would seem.

 

Get a second job or find one that pays more so that you can afford the life you need in order to be a viable, competitive participant in the dating world. If you are down on your life and unhappy, you're not going to be able to maintain any quality relationship unless she's got problems in her life she doesn't want to face and resolve, too.

 

Like will attract like.

[oberkeat]

Im not really the type to judge my life to others but damn it sucks sometimes.

I never even seen a girl naked, been with a girl for about 3 years and she dumped me , we never had sex or anything close to it. I feel so lame sometimes when people talk bout it or i even read about it.

 

22 years old i mean ik thats not old but just suck sometimes when i think about it. would be nice to have some sexual intimacy with a woman.

 

And i have no idea where to begin.

 

OP, I have had sex with women within hours of meeting them. How is it that you went 3 years with a girl and never once kissed her?

[PPan]

Im not really the type to judge my life to others but damn it sucks sometimes.

I never even seen a girl naked, been with a girl for about 3 years and she dumped me , we never had sex or anything close to it. I feel so lame sometimes when people talk bout it or i even read about it.

 

22 years old i mean ik thats not old but just suck sometimes when i think about it. would be nice to have some sexual intimacy with a woman.

 

And i have no idea where to begin.

 

 

what's with these guys having ''relationships'' without sex as part of the relationship? No offense, but young guys are so sensitive nowadays and are afraid of letting women know they want to F*. You think this is something that is appealing to women? Especially young women? Women want to be sexually desired. They want men to want to bang them, to show to them how much we want them, and yet you stayed 3 years with your ''girlfriend'' without doing anything sexual?

 

Did you even talked about sex with her?

 

A) She wasn't attracted to you.

B) She was a Christian.

C)Low sex- drive.

D)lesbian in the closet.

 

Choose.

 

As for not wanting to be a virgin. You are only a virgin because you want to be. Lower your standards. There's plenty of girls in nightclubs looking for sex. Get drunk. Every girl will be beautiful in your eyes.

 

If you don't want to lower your standards you can always join the gym and grow buff and cut. And don't be overly emotional... you are not a 15 year old girl. Better, don't be emotional at all. Hit the gym, get a decent haircut, clean-shave your face, buy some decent-clothes, and approach every girl you see on the street. As soon as you begin to have success you can graduate into pursuing women you are attracted to.

 

Also, you are not entitled to sex. Men have to earn it. You're in competition with every guy out there. You better get your groove on and get laid or you are out of the race.

 

OP, I have had sex with women within hours of meeting them. How is it that you went 3 years with a girl and never once kissed her?

 

There is quite the difference between an attractive, buff man who has been sexually active for years, and a 22 year old virgin who hasn't even seen a woman naked besides the women he sees in porn movies, no?

 

That's like saying, 'huh, Brad Pitt can get laid with the most beautiful women in a matter of seconds. Why can't you sleep with Jennifer Lawrence and Emma Watson?'

Edited January 4, 2016 by PPan

[doeblin]

Find someone you care about instead of this schedule nonsense (4th or 5th date...lol please). I wouldn't sleep with someone on the 4th or 5th date just because everybody says you have to these days.

 

I literally wrote that there's no strict schedule to adhere to. Sometime on or after the 3rd date is the average in western culture by my experience and the surveys support this. A virgin per definitionem doesn't have this experience. That's why I offered this piece of info.

 

At the end of the third date you really should know (or feel) whether you want to be with this person or not. But of course, every relationship is a bit different.

 

Nobody's ordering him to do anything.

 

If you just want to get laid, join Tinder. Find a FWB. Hire an escort for a night.

 

Tinder might help him, just as any OLD. He still needs to go on dates tho.

 

I myself think prostitution is immoral... and it might be better for him psychologically to lose his cherry with a girlfriend he actually likes.

 

 

 

 

Anyway...

 

d0nnivain is right as usual.

OP, get your life in order, lose the pessimism, approach girls, and it will be fine.

 

Be cool.

[oberkeat]

 

There is quite the difference between an attractive, buff man who has been sexually active for years, and a 22 year old virgin who hasn't even seen a woman naked besides the women he sees in porn movies, no?

 

That's like saying, 'huh, Brad Pitt can get laid with the most beautiful women in a matter of seconds. Why can't you sleep with Jennifer Lawrence and Emma Watson?'

 

What does that have to do with never sleeping with someone who was supposedly your girlfriend for three years?