DoritoLover Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Hi again guys I posted before Christmas about splitting up with my Girlfriend of 6 years. Quick re-cap: I found out that she's been messaging a guy that she worked with on a short project and she'd told a mutual friend that she was really into this guy, so I confronted her with it, she said she was sorry and didn't know what to do so I broke it off and told her I wasn't being treated in that way. That was 6 weeks ago, I miss her like crazy. She invites me to hang out at the flat we used to share (I now have my own place) and I can't help myself so I go and hang out with her. We have fun, we laugh together more now than we did in the last 6 months of the relationship. We've slept together once (5 weeks ago) and she's admitted there's a big void in her life without me in it. Recently I've been hanging out with another girl who's really cool, we're just friends but my ex has found out and now every time I see her she's asks how my love life is and asks about the girl I've been hanging out with, she suggests that the girl likes me and teases me about it. She also implies that the girl wants to have sex with me. So my question for you guys is, why is she doing this? She says she's not jealous, but she seems to have too much of an interest in what's going on between me and my new female friend. Any help with why she's interested in my situation so much would be very helpful, I'm so confused and keep thinking her constant questioning might be a sign she wants me back? Thanks so much, the replies to my last post were extremely helpful and made me sleep far easier.
anonymousbear00101100 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 (edited) Oh you bet your ass she's jealous! You left her and now she thinks you're already moving on and can get girls really easy. Whatever you do, don't let her know that you and this new girl are just friends. You don't have to say "Yeah we're hooking up" or "Yeah we're dating", but just don't ever be like "We're just friends, don't worry". Your ex is the Death Star and this new girl is a pair of proton torpedoes. Just make sure the new girl finds the main reactor. Let her destroy herself from within. My advice would be to cut off your ex entirely. Yeah you miss her and still love her, but is that really the mother of your kids? Flirting with other guys online and lying to you? Trust me, let it be hard now, and in a few months when women are all over you and begging to treat you like a king, you'll be glad you left that toxicity behind. Sticking around like you are shows to her that you will stand to be treated like an option, which you shouldn't. If you stay with her, you will forever be under her control. You've done the first step and stood up for yourself, now you just have to finish it off. Get in your fighting stance, bob and weave around all of the "Do you think she's prettier than me?" bull ****, and do what's best for you. Edited January 4, 2016 by rjblak13 3
NoLeafClover Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Tell her "non of her business.and not.to.talk about personal life" because she's not with you. Honesty tell her she ***ed up and that perhaps she should go and ask the guy she was interested with while together about his personal stuff. Don't tell her anything she wants to know. Let her ass wonder. Say nothing.
PegNosePete Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 So my question for you guys is, why is she doing this? Let me turn this question around on its head. Why are you doing what you're doing? Do you want to get back with your ex? If so then it would be best to tell her so, rather than beating around the bush, and hanging out with other girls. If you don't want to get back with your ex then tell her it's none of her business what you do with others. I'd really recommend you reconsider what you're doing with your ex. This whole friends-but-maybe-more thing seems to be preventing you from moving on. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 (edited) I was about to add the same thing. You're disrespecting one another dreadfully, but you are the worse protagonist, because you broke up with her, and now it looks as if you're just using her. You should definitely have stayed in NC and completely rejected and refuted any invitation to go round to her place. Now, you're treating her like a FWB, whereas she still has a connection to you. Either quit playing the dating game and resolve to repair your relationship - together - or get off the pot, let her go, stay NC and behave yourself. Edited January 4, 2016 by TaraMaiden2 1
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