bu2002 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 For any online daters, had you ever reconnected with someone you previously were in contact with. A couple of years ago, I met up with someone over coffee. It was a brief 30 minute meeting. It seemed like she wasn't that interested. I'll admit i wasn't on my game, and was new to online dating back then and probably more nervous than I should have been. I've ditched coffee dates awhile back cause it feels like a job interview. Neither of us followed up with each other after that. Anyhow, I've noticed she's still online and has checked out my profile a couple of times recentely. I always wonder if we're sometimes to easy to check out on someone, both ways. Not that this may matter much, but I have lost 15 lbs since then and some fat from my face. Would it reak of desperation if i tried to message her?
Gaeta Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 I did that more than once. It never worked for me but who knows maybe it will for you.
scooby-philly Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 I agree with the ladies - it doesn't hurt to try. From my own experience, I think if I were checking out your profile it would be because I still think about you. Who knows. Maybe she was new and/or off her game as well. However, I'd listen to the responses from women too in case Of course, she could just be interested from a "zookeeper" type of thing or perhaps she doesn't remember you. I don't mean that in a mean way. There's about 4-5 people I'm sure I wouldn't recognize from just 1 date. The real question to get advice on is HOW should you go about it.
FadedSign52 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 If she's checking your profile she's interested I think. Can't hurt to try can it?
Maggie4 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 A couple of years ago... and she still hasn't found anyone? Why not get together as friends and tell each other interesting stories of people you've met online during those years. You are now both OLD veterans, that's something in common.
Terry8889 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 When I check a guy's profile (a guy who I previously met/talked to) it is not because I am interested in him. Sometimes it is because I am curious to see if there is something new on his profile. I mean she probably liked you initially that is why she accepted to go out on a date with you in the first place. Was there a reason why you never followed up with her? Why didn't you contacted or pursue her after the date? Did you like her at all? If you did not contacted after the date she probably thought you didn't like her. At least that is what I think when I don't hear from a guy after we meet on a date. If he is really interested he will sent a text or call to say "hey I enjoyed our date I hope we can meet again" or whatever. If you did any of that probably she still finds you "interesting" or is curious to see how your doing and is also wondering why you are still on OLD. Anyways, if you are really interested again you can send her a message and find out if she still likes you and if she can give you another chance. Good luck!
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