Moonchild77 Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Hi, I'm just looking for some insight or advice on my situation. First, let me say I was in a long term relationships for 13 yrs. and was hurt very badly by him. After that I stayed single. I had no plans of trying or trusting anyone again. But, I met am amazing man, who I became friends with first, stayed friends for a few months, when he then declared he had fallen in love with me, I felt the same. The feelings were very intense and things just kept getting better. He is a very deep person, as I am, we understood each other well. He said he never felt such deep feelings for someone. I felt the same. I met his kids, he has 3. 2 teens from a previous marriage of 17 yrs, and a 6 yr old from a relationship of 5 yrs. He had been single, only dated, for 3 yrs. then I met him. One issue that started making things hard was the mother of the 6 yr old, she was not happy about me being there and started using the kid against him. Well, around Christmas things got worse, she got more dramatic. He very suddenly stopped calling me babe, stopped telling me he loved me. I asked what is going on and he said, I'm going through a rough time with her over my son. I can only focus on that issue right now. Says he plans on taking her to court. Told me as of right now, he can't talk to me or see me, until he gets everything cleared up. Do you think he's being honest? Or am I being lied to? He has been nothing but genuine and consistent with me right up until day before Christmas Eve. I even spent Thanksgiving weekend with his kids and his mom. He told his mom how much he loves me. I Just don't get how he can go from being so in love with me for about a year now, to literally over night dropping everything. By the way, I'm 38 and he is 45. I have no kids, I did try with my last relationship but no. I did get pregnant with this new relationship, he was very happy, as was I, but sadly I lost it. I'm just crushed over everything. I had just healed from my last relationship when I met him. This too much for me.
StrangerThanFiction Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 I'm so sorry you're going through this and that you lost a child . I can only imagine how hard things are for you right now. But I think the only thing you can really do right now is to let him be to deal with whatever issues he is facing with the mother of his child. Sounds like she's not over him and you really don't want to be drawn into that sort of drama because it rarely ends well. You may have to consider moving on and having a life that doesn't include him. My advice: just give him space and focus on your own life for the time being. If he resolves these issues and wants to be with you, I'm sure you'll hear from him. Keep your head up and keep moving forward.
Author Moonchild77 Posted January 4, 2016 Author Posted January 4, 2016 Thank you. This is just really hard. I have not been able to eat or sleep, I keep breaking down crying. Just such a drastic thing over night . I just feel he owes me more explanations. As he has been begging me to.move in. He lives an hour and 20 away. I been doing all I can here to make it possible to move with him. I have horses and he don't take into consideration all I have been doing for him. He gets his son every weekend. Just makes no sense that he can't even call me on the phone to talk. He still texts me here and there, to just say hi, or good afternoon, good night. But that's it. Has me on Fb. Just don't seem to add up to.me.
Author Moonchild77 Posted January 5, 2016 Author Posted January 5, 2016 (edited) We talked and he said that, it's just not fair to me, to deal with this. That he knows, I'm sick of hearing about drama with her. So he said, I gotta work my issues out. He said, things will go back to the way they used to be with us after. But, something just feels so off..I mean I have only known him as a genuine, truthful man. Just trying to make sense of this. Edited January 5, 2016 by Moonchild77
Author Moonchild77 Posted January 5, 2016 Author Posted January 5, 2016 He texts me once a day, just saying hi or how are you? Then that's it. No conversation. Should I just stop replying?
Jim nine three Posted January 6, 2016 Posted January 6, 2016 I understand this must be a very tough situation you are in.I honestly wish things will turn out for the best for you! The best thing you can do in my opinion at the moment is to focus on your own life and give him space.If and when he resolves the issues he is having and is true to his word he will reach out to you!But for now you should focus on yourself.Stay strong!
Author Moonchild77 Posted January 7, 2016 Author Posted January 7, 2016 He texts me good night and good morning, asked me how I'm doing..I then asked him, and he said "Happy as f*ck! 2016 is looking better than last year. Thank God." Ummm ....this coming from a man who has been stressed and unhappy about fighting with his sons mom. He just told me Sunday, he's taking her to court. Just 2 days ago telling me he's trying to get his mess and issues worked out, and then him and I can resume. Today he's happy as ever....what am I missing? Meanwhile, I'm over here, lost, confused and hurting. He told me not to feel hurt, things will go back to how they were.
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