angel.eyes Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 Who knows, and more to the point, who cares? You were a rebound. Seeing how painful that was, why are you now holding on to the possibility of reconciliation...i.e. rebound experience #2 with her. Stop checking up on her via social media. It's serving no purpose other than to delay your healing and moving on. You should have blocked her on your phone and on all social media. Until you do, expect the odd bread crumb here and there to cause you nothing but confusion and more emotional pain.
elaine567 Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 I dated this girl for three months. Things were going well. We took a trip together, spent Christmas at her family's house, spent NYE together. But she randomly dumped me on New Years. She couldn't give me a real reason why. All of my friend's were shocked. No one saw it coming. I asked her if it was because of her ex. She said no. They dated for 2 years and broke up three months before me. He has two kids. Two weeks later she deleted me from all of social media and added her ex. I knew what was going on. A month after no contact, she drunk texts me "happy Valentine's Day!" With a kissy emoji face. She then called to make sure I got them and to say hi. Well a week after this, my friend told me she's in Florida with her ex boyfriend. So it's obvious they are together again. Why would she text me this, while she's in a relationship, and knows she's going on a trip with him within a week? Doesn't she know, I'll find out that they are together? Doesn't she know that it will probably kill any chance or reconciliation? My guess is she didn't text/call you wanting a reconciliation, she texted/called you because she was drunk and for some reason wanted to know what you were doing. Drunken contact is not uncommon by dumpers, it often means absolutely nothing.
Author Ryan52 Posted February 21, 2016 Author Posted February 21, 2016 My guess is she didn't text/call you wanting a reconciliation, she texted/called you because she was drunk and for some reason wanted to know what you were doing. Drunken contact is not uncommon by dumpers, it often means absolutely nothing. I meant reconciliation down the road. That text, I don't know why she sent me that. Who sends an ex that on Valentine's Day? Knowing they are in a relationship?
Zahara Posted February 21, 2016 Posted February 21, 2016 (edited) I meant reconciliation down the road. That text, I don't know why she sent me that. Who sends an ex that on Valentine's Day? Knowing they are in a relationship? Why would you even want to be with someone that dumped you so callously? Wasn't even honest? Erased you so easily? You don't want that for yourself. Hopefully by the time she pops up back again, your brain will be in charge and you'll have healthier boundaries and better standards. Plus, why would you even consider someone that's texting you while dating someone else. I have to wonder if there was any overlap when she was dating you. She didn't just wake up one day and run back to him. It must have crossed your mind? The text -- it's not uncommon. It's been told here on LS countless times. It's just to get attention and to see if you're still affected or to even relieve her guilt. Since you entertained her, she didn't feel like the bad guy anymore. If it meant anything, you'd be getting more than just a wish. Edited February 21, 2016 by Zahara
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