Is it wrong to pursue a girl if she is already dating someone?

[loverage21]

If a girl has been seeing a guy, lets say it can be anywhere from a few weeks to less than 6 months at best, is it wrong to pursue her?

 

At what point do you draw the line? What if they aren't exclusive or "official"? And what defines an "official" or an exclusive relationship? Is there usually some form of verbal agreement?

 

 

And if I happen to swoop in and sweep a girl of her feet while she is dating a guy, would that constitute some guy doing that to me when I actually get serious with her?

 

Does it go back to my doors theory where the outcomes depend on uncertainties in life and the timing of lessons learned? For example, in the future if some guy wants her and she stays with me because she already has a relationship established with me, couldn't she of said the same thing before I went in and swept her off her feet with the last guy she was with? And the outcome is just dependant on a lesson learned at a later time in life?

[mavlast]

If a girl has been seeing a guy, lets say it can be anywhere from a few weeks to less than 6 months at best, is it wrong to pursue her?

 

At what point do you draw the line? What if they aren't exclusive or "official"? And what defines an "official" or an exclusive relationship? Is there usually some form of verbal agreement?

 

 

And if I happen to swoop in and sweep a girl of her feet while she is dating a guy, would that constitute some guy doing that to me when I actually get serious with her?

 

Does it go back to my doors theory where the outcomes depend on uncertainties in life and the timing of lessons learned? For example, in the future if some guy wants her and she stays with me because she already has a relationship established with me, couldn't she of said the same thing before I went in and swept her off her feet with the last guy she was with? And the outcome is just dependant on a lesson learned at a later time in life?

 

I think you should consider the relationship "official" unless she explicitly says it isn't. But if there's enough doubt in your mind, though, then there's likely no harm in asking her directly. Worst case, she'll say "yes" and may consider it too forward, in which case you had no chance anyway.

 

But it sounds like you have misgivings. In fact, you've come right out and said you'd rather not be in the other guy's shoes if someone else did the same thing you are considering. That's a strong indicator that you should reconsider.

[Beach Guy]

And if I happen to swoop in and sweep a girl of her feet while she is dating a guy, would that constitute some guy doing that to me when I actually get serious with her?

Could happen.

[sambolini]

Yes.

 

/10yes's

[BetrayedH]

If a girl is in a committed relationship, you shouldn't help or encourage her to betray that commitment. I'd be sure to ask if their relationship is exclusive.

 

And yes, if she cheats with you, you should most certainly expect that she has no problem with cheating on you.

[madjac74]

Are you willing to take an ass whooping? If yes then pursue

[candie13]

I do not think you can sweep someone Off their feet unless they want to be swept off their feet. Sometimes you meet someone and there's chemistry and sooner or later they will leave their current Partner to follow their Heart & be with you. It's not fair, but it is life!

 

However if the girl is happy in her RS and you do your best to seduce her and use all the tricks in the book to convince her to either sleep with you or dump her Partner, yeah, high chances of arse whooping.

 

If, on the other hand, she's in a committed RS but it's getting a bit boring & she cannot resist the thrills of a new adventure... Yeah, you may not have picked a winner, there... A

She may dump you again after routine sets in.

[basil67]

Thanks to too much Victorian and Regency reading, I take an old fashioned stance: If she is not yet engaged, it is perfectly acceptable to attempt to woo her away from her beau.

[basil67]

And if I happen to swoop in and sweep a girl of her feet while she is dating a guy, would that constitute some guy doing that to me when I actually get serious with her?

 

Not necessarily. If she's happy with you, she won't stray. And even if you get a girl who was available at the time, there's no guarantee that she won't stray.

[2.50 a gallon]

It has been my experience, that if she is attractive, there is a good chance she has a boy friend. Until he puts a ring on her finger and she says I do she is fair game. If she is not interested she will let you know.

I stole my Ex-fiancé from a guy she was considering getting engaged to. My current GF was actually living with a guy and had so for several years, when I met her. To think of what I would have missed if I had said she is taken and never looked back is scary. We have now been together for 20 years.