brogrammer Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 Well, firstly... I will start off by saying that I am 25 and my ex girlfriend is 18). I was her first true love... her first REAL boyfriend, her first relationship to last longer than two months. It lasted eight months. We started dating in April and things were going well--in fact, her entire family told me that they have never seen her so happy. We did pretty much everything together when we visited one another (lived two hours away) from just going on drives to going out and eating at a random restaurant. She loved me, and I loved her... everything seemed fine--it was even on the last day that I saw her in November that she called her grandmother bawling about me leaving that she couldn't believe I was going and how much she missed me. Fast forward to around December 13th... "I don't know if I feel the same anymore--I don't know if we're compatible; we're not right for each other"... blah blah blah. I ask her what she means, and she doesn't give me a straight answer. Turns out, though... there was a guy that she was speaking to literally just as a friend who she, and I quote, "was impressed by" because he had his own house, his own car, his own job, AND went to school. I go to school, but don't have the other three at the moment... working on my computer programming degree, gonna be finishing in April of next year. She also keeps saying that she can't explain why she feels that way, but she does... and she can't control it. I posted a bunch of things on Instagram about how I was moving on from my ex and she "liked" all of them... but her friend contacts me showing the messages exchanged between them "I don't know whether to laugh or cry--I think cry. His pics are so upsetting, ugh... some days I feel like I didn't make the right choice... but if I didn't make the right choice I wouldn't be feeling this way about another guy." We broke up... I broke the NC rule a good number of times as did she by replying. The last time I broke it was on December 30th to just wish her a happy new year. She called me on December 31st bawling her eyes out saying she was just returning my call to be nice and asked me how my Christmas was and said how it sucks going from being in a relationship to being single again... I love you, but I don't think we're right for each other..." (again, this confuses me as she has said all along that we're perfect for each other and the chemistry always seemed great between us; never really felt awkward around her). No matter what, though... she still keeps saying that there is a chance for us in the future, "but not right now..." She is moving to my city in August of this year so I think I may ask her out to do something then (I will have a car and my license by then and have worked at a paid internship and have saved some money up by then). My ex suffers from low self esteem, anxiety, and depression... so I think this all plays a role in this.. but IDK. What are the chances, do you think, of a reconciliation at some point in the future? I have no choice but to move on--right now things are over.
d0nnivain Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 She is an 18 year old girl. She is discovering the world around her & meeting new people. You unfortunately are part of her past. She's saying these things about maybe in the future because she is trying to end this without hurting your feelings. She's trying to be nice but in reality she is simply giving you false hope. 1
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