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Hi guys. I don't know what should I do next in my relationship. Please help.

 

So me and my ex-boyfriend, we went official in a LDR for 1 year and 8 months. Right before we actually ended our relationship. We had a break in our relationship for about 7 months. During that time, I tried to contact him again but He became like a different person, like he didn't want to talk to me at all. I always initiated the conversation; and it became like a one-sided relationship. Finally, he ended the relationship.

 

So I went to NC rules, and I thought we could still be together. But soon after I found that he moved on. So I contacted him back. He said he still loved me but we couldn't be together. Should I try to hold on to him or should I move on? Or should I try to visit him (but it will be in 6 months away)?

 

Thank you again.

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OP... you have to move on. He's told you that it won't work and that he has moved on with someone else. You also said that you initiated all contact and the relationship became one-sided? Why are you holding on to this guy? Please have some self respect and move on... just as he has.

 

Sorry you're going through this, I wish you the best of luck.

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I wish people would get it through their heads that "going no contact" is not a strategy to try and lure a wayward significant other back.

 

The whole idea of going "NC" is to give YOURSELF the time and space to heal so you can move on.

 

There are several very good guides on this site that have been written/compiled by others who have walked in your shoes. Here's a good one:

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/470829-all-new-2014-no-contact-guide

 

Read and heed and you'll be better off for it.

 

Best,

TMichaels

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