Afro Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Me and my girlfriend are in long distance relationship(Over a year now) and we are around 3000 miles far from each other. Yes we have met each other before and all is going well We talk daily on video chat maybe for an hour or two to stay in touch with each other. So last week i went for vacation to another place in my country and I couldn't find time for her for around 5 days during our chat timing sessions and when I come back its already too late for her so she has to sleep. All we had to rely on texting which we both hate as the emotional connection isnt there on chat Anyhow, fast forwarding..she was really sad in last few days and was a bit upset as I wasn't getting time for her. Do note she already knows where am I and all that but still she misses me a ****ING lot and got really lonely and upset as I could see her in her text messages when I couldnt reply due to my busy schedule When I asked her what's wrong she said, I am not there to talk with her when she wants to.. Can anyone tell me if this is a normal behaviour? This is my first relationship so I am not much experienced in all this. Appreciate your answers as always
d0nnivain Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Normal is a loaded word. Needing daily contact & being upset when she doesn't get it may be normal for her. I find it over the top & needy. She knew you were on vacation outside of your regular routine. While you were having fun, it was tough to be on her schedule for your regular 1 hour Skype so you sent texts. I think that was thoughtful. If she disagrees you need to think about what kind of person can't go a whole week without Skyping you for 7 hours (1 hour per day). While it might have been nice for you to squeeze in 1 Skype call since that is your norm but you had no idea she'd behave like this.
Tabby32 Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Under normal circumstances I would find this behaviour strange, but I can see why living 3000 miles away from you would make her feel insecure and worry when you don't get in contact. How serious is your relationship? Do you have plans to live together in the future? Take it as a compliment that your contact means so much to her. Don't tolerate her giving you a 'telling off' or being nasty in any way because you have done nothing wrong. Calmly and lovingly reassure her about your feelings for her and tell her that even when you are not able to call she is always in your mind. That's what she's looking for. If possible start discussing plans for when you will next visit each other, then she will know that you are serious. Good luck.
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