Unsuretrying Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Okay so I have a dilemma in which I can't choose which of these three guys I like and I am soon going to be in danger of losing all three if I can't make a decision..it'd be great to get some peoples opinions. (Guy #1): So we have kind of a history. My friends cousin. She tried to hook us up over the summer, but another guy had my attention and I dated the other guy for three months. After I broke up with him, I started seeing this guy! We kissed and that was as far as it went. He really liked me and I kept pulling back. New years day i kissed him again very drunk and he stayed the night with me. He has a lot of tattoos (hand tattoos which I really don't like), listens to heavy metal, and his style is tight pants which I also don't like. However; He has a daughter which he is a great father to, he is an extremely hard worker, a genuinely great guy. My brother would like me to date him. He isn't really my type but I am attracted to him none the less. He is small in a certain "area" (although I have not actually had sex with this man). (Guy #2): This one I had been talking to for a month or so. I invited him over Christmas Eve and I was expecting a one night stand with this guy. However after wards he seems like he is looking for a relationship and wants me to give it a shot with him. I talk to him every day. I have definite chemistry with this guy. He has a son that he has full custody of. I am not opposed to having step children at all. He is not as hard of a worker as guy one. I just don't know as much about his character as guy one. He was sort of nervous when I met him. We haven't seen each other since then. Due to me not wanting to meet his son this sson he hasn't been able to plan for someone to watch him as the child is under ten and wanted to spend Christmas vacation with daddy (cute). (Guy #3): This one I met from tinder. I invited him go my new years Eve party. He showed up and I had instant attraction. My brother loved him. My friends thought he was great. He looks like Vince Vaughn! We got a long great, have tons in common. We both got pretty drunk we kissed and shortly after I noticed he was paying a lot of attention to my friend. I was hosting the party so a lot of time I was preoccupied. But I called him out on it and he insisted he was just trying to ask her about me. But their body language was very Flirty although she has a boyfriend. She insisted the same thing. But I was drunk and mad and so he slept in his truck in my drive way. My friends all say he was definitely flirting with her hard. And I thought so too. But I liked this guy and the next day he texts me apologizing that he upset me and said he is looking for a relationship, etc. We do make a cute couple. My mom would be ecstatic if I brought this guy home. I do want to see this guy again, I just feel like I don't know enough about him to drop the other guys for him. He has no kids yet. He is clearly a hard worker. He has two jobs. So give it to me straight, am I suffering from severe "grass is greener" syndrome or what? What should I do?!?!
Snakechammah Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Do all of them want you... as relationship material? That is the true question. As a woman, we'll have many orbiting guys who just want to get in our pants. You need to sieve out the genuine one - the ones who sincerely want you as their girlfriend and more than someone to shag! Think about what YOU want them for? Good luck! 3
road Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Dump #3 Dump #2 Why is #1 a hard worker and #2 is not?
Author Unsuretrying Posted January 12, 2016 Author Posted January 12, 2016 So, I took the advice of a poster and also what I pretty much already knew and I dumped #2 & #3 and stuck with #1. Guy #1 and I have been seeing each other almost every single day since then. I like him a lot, we are really hitting it off and I think he is awesome. He tells me I'm beautiful, how I'm everything he's ever wanted in a woman, how lucky he is, etc. He has not asked me to be his girlfriend yet but I'm pretty sure we are headed that way very soon. Problem is, our sex life really sucks. I try to have sex with him, one time he came before sex, one time ten seconds after, yet he seems to have a hard time "getting it up" for us to actually have sex. We have only had sex the one time. He says it's because he is nervous, anxious, and worried he is not going to perform well. I am hoping this is the case, but what can I do to help this situation? It is really causing me to question being with him. I can't really live without sex. He says he just needs more time. He knows me very well. We've been friends for a while before this. I don't see why he would be so nervous/anxious. He has met my parents, siblings, friends, etc. Knows just about everything about me. Says how hot/sexy I am but I feel like it's my fault he can't get it up. Any advice?
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