predator8u Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 Hey all I'm trying to get together with this girl i met online, we met once a diner last week. I keep trying to call her and I always get the answering machine, She emailed me this monday, that she received my email and she said "I'd love to hang out with you again" and she thanked me for thinking about her etc.... sounded all good. I called her again, wednesday, and she wasn't there,,, left a message Today i talked to her on aim, and she just left in the middle of the conversation... i didn't say ANYTHING that would have upset her and then again she could have just gotten disconnnected I told her that i called her and left a message and she just said "really?" and left a smiling face and then we talked some more I do not really want to keep calling her because I dont wanna seem obsessed.... but im confused because she gives me signals that she is interested and she never calls and never really talks to me..... i dunno what i should do ..... does she want to get to know me better or not??? gimme ur 5 cents anyone, Thanks
Pyro Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 From what it sounds like, I believe that she is not all that interested. She hasn't given much effort in trying to get together with you, or even communicating with you. Maybe she is just afraid to tell you the truth because she thinks that it may hurt you. You have done more than enough to try and make plans with her or even talk to her. Sit back and wait to see if she will try to contact you and you will have your answer then.
crazy_grl Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 What both of them said. Don't put any more effort into it. You don't need this girl. Move on and find someone else who won't drive you nuts with this type of behavior.
Author predator8u Posted June 3, 2005 Author Posted June 3, 2005 yeah i guess u r all right its just really sad because she is soooooo nice but yeah i dunno why she cant just tell me she doesnt want anything with me..... i told her in the voice mail to tell me directly if she is interested or not..... that i do not get offended...... to let me know either way and she said she'd "love" to see me again... this just made the whole thing worse because she made me all excited that there may be something........ if she said no the first time i would have said okay... nice meeting you maybe we'll talk some other time.... but no
Pyro Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 You are going to meet alot of soooooo nice girls in your lifetime. Speaking from personal experience, there are alot of people out there who just can't be honest even if you ask them to. I told my ex all the time to be up front with me about things, which I later found out that she had lied about numerous things. I think that these type of people are just afraid and need to take responsibility for their actions. Predator8u, you don't need to waste your time with individuals like this. Move on and the best of luck to you my friend.
Author predator8u Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 Hey all..... Well after all of this I talked to her on the internet and i asked her why shes acting the way she is and she said that she was just busy with work.... I asked her to be honest with me and tell me if she was really interested in me and she said I was very attractive very nice blah blah and she said she wanted to see me.... she called me that night ... we talked for a bit and we were going to go out the next day..... 1 hour before the "date" she calls and tells me she got called into work She says "I'd like to move it to a different date if you don't hate me now" I said sure just call me when ur available. we haven't spoken since.... she was online today and didnt even say hi.... I don't understand if she just wants to BE MEAN to me or what.... but it's really annoying.... whenever I'm ready to get over her she comes back, tells me she likes me, I fall for it and then she stabs me in the back... i won't say nothing to her anymore,,,,, and if she says something...... she'll have a lot of explaining to do! haha
blue16 Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Ok so you've fallen for her trick once. Don't fall for it again. At this point she just enjoys letting you chase her, knowing she doesn't have to follow through one bit and you'll still be there waiting. A nice ego boost for her low self-esteem. Just ignore her ass, don't let her push you around. If she wants to go out, LET HER make all of the arrangements and times...don't do a damn thing. This girl is actually quite amusing (to me anyhow.) She is very manipulative, whether she realizes it or not. She says "I'd like to go out again if you don't hate me." Trying to make you feel guilty, and making it seem like either a) you want to go out with her or b) you hate her for cancelling. How bout you just aren't interested in her anymore because she is a flaky girl? Good luck and be very careful with this girl, or do the easier thing and move on to someone else.
ashley83 Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Originally posted by blue16 Ok so you've fallen for her trick once. Don't fall for it again. At this point she just enjoys letting you chase her, knowing she doesn't have to follow through one bit and you'll still be there waiting. A nice ego boost for her low self-esteem. Just ignore her ass, don't let her push you around. If she wants to go out, LET HER make all of the arrangements and times...don't do a damn thing. This girl is actually quite amusing (to me anyhow.) She is very manipulative, whether she realizes it or not. She says "I'd like to go out again if you don't hate me." Trying to make you feel guilty, and making it seem like either a) you want to go out with her or b) you hate her for cancelling. How bout you just aren't interested in her anymore because she is a flaky girl? Good luck and be very careful with this girl, or do the easier thing and move on to someone else. amen
ConfusedInOC Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Originally posted by predator8u Hey all..... Well after all of this I talked to her on the internet and i asked her why shes acting the way she is and she said that she was just busy with work.... I asked her to be honest with me and tell me if she was really interested in me and she said I was very attractive very nice blah blah and she said she wanted to see me.... she called me that night ... we talked for a bit and we were going to go out the next day..... 1 hour before the "date" she calls and tells me she got called into work She says "I'd like to move it to a different date if you don't hate me now" I said sure just call me when ur available. we haven't spoken since.... she was online today and didnt even say hi.... I don't understand if she just wants to BE MEAN to me or what.... but it's really annoying.... whenever I'm ready to get over her she comes back, tells me she likes me, I fall for it and then she stabs me in the back... i won't say nothing to her anymore,,,,, and if she says something...... she'll have a lot of explaining to do! haha Dude, yer getting played. Stop calling her, texting her, etc. She knows you are interested, so stop playing into her hands. Make HER come after you and if she doesn't, then you know she never wanted you to begin with. Good luck.
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