sportygirl89 Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 I was brushing up on some reading and came across a statement saying "Do things to show your support for his dreams, goals, and ambitions." Forgive me if I sound naive, I have been out of the dating scene for about 3 years. But as a guy what are the ways you would want to be shown support by the girl?
almond Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Don't put the cart before the horse. If you're in a relationship with a man, you'll get to know what their hopes and dreams are. You can support them in countless ways, and it will totally depend on the goal/dream, and the two people involved. This is just a guy you like. You can't support him in his dreams if you're not involved in his life to that extent, and don't know him well enough to be able to do so. Get to know each other first, and figure out whether there is mutual attraction and if it's going anywhere. The rest will follow.
Author sportygirl89 Posted January 2, 2016 Author Posted January 2, 2016 Don't put the cart before the horse. If you're in a relationship with a man, you'll get to know what their hopes and dreams are. You can support them in countless ways, and it will totally depend on the goal/dream, and the two people involved. This is just a guy you like. You can't support him in his dreams if you're not involved in his life to that extent, and don't know him well enough to be able to do so. Get to know each other first, and figure out whether there is mutual attraction and if it's going anywhere. The rest will follow. I wasn't say this was about the man I current likely (I have a couple). Just was overall asking about it. But thanks for the reply
Versacehottie Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 Well, the first step is to get him to open up and tell you what they are (you can't be prying or fake about it; hopefully a deep or semi-deep talk will lead things in this direction). In my experience, once a guy opens up in that way, he's more bonded to you. Be a good listener during this part. Show you were listening by remembering the stuff they told you about including the details. Kinda let them set the pace about what they are willing to share--what a guy wants to do with his future and career are core issues for him. So you've got to walk the line of being supportive without being intrusive or pushy. You have to care for real and not overdo it or it will seem disingenious. Being a good listener and a good friend during those parts usually does the trick. If he trusts you, he will usually seek out your advice and give you the updates about that as it progresses. Show interest at every step of the way.
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